The Other Side Of the Pillow

Should You Settle Your Happiness For A Relationship?

2012-01-17T23:50:00.000-05:00

2012is here and you’re still single. 2011 had its memorable ups and eventful downsduring your pursuit for love. So you spent New Years Eve with the fellasor with your girls, which isn't bad but you started the new year again, alone. Night was full of laughter and jokes until that moment of clarity hit youharder than the Casey Anthony verdict. You're sipping a hard drink thinking whyhasn't that right person entered my life yet? “I look good, I'm smart, workinga decent career but the people I date just aren't compatible. Is theresomething wrong with me?” Well actually there is! Before you start off 2012alone again you should reflect on your past and present love life to hopefullybuild a healthy future. A common and major downfall of hopeless romanticsis putting your heart on the back burner just to have someone. What isthe sense of settling? Dating person after person with the potentialof longevity is slimmer than Herman Cain's chance of winningthe presidency. What is the benefit of spending your twenties and thirtiesgoing from one failed situation to another? I purposely saidsituation because a relationship has meaning, even if that person hurts you,you are still able to walk away with something; i.e. a lesson learned of what not todo. A relationship should provide you with a different outlook onyourself or a new approach for areas, which needed improvement.

Begin to reflect on the past year of your lovelife and pick up on certain patterns, which more than likely exist. Thetrue definition of human insanity is approaching something with thesame method over and over and expecting different results. So 2012 isyour year, not to sound cliché but you can find that Mr./Mrs. Right as long asyou stop selling yourself short. Start with some patience and the oldadage of using of your intuition. Walk away after date two if you aren't reallyfeeling someone. What is the sense of continuing with someone who is cuteyet may not meet your standards? Why continue when they told you on dateone that they are just looking to have fun? If your mind is set onsettling down take your time for that person to cross your path. Stopwasting time thinking your love life will end like a bad romantic comedy. It is highly unlikely your so-so lover will adapt into your soul mate. Additionally you should examine your current playing field. Wherehave you been meeting people? Maybe you should try something new, getmore active, go to places you wouldn’t normally go. You never know whattype of interesting people you will meet9 while attending venues orparticipating in activities out of your norm. You know the old saying,“When you least expect it?” Do not walk around saying today I am going to findthe man/woman of my dreams. Your mind will be so caught up on meeting alover you’ll forget to have fun, which is the main purpose and you will overthink and over analyze your interactions with potential mates.

Now there is another obstacle you will encounter, standards. You may be thinking like I really don’t want to date someone with children or I won’t date someone who doesn’t have a college degree. Standards are good but they can also break you, potentially having you settle for someone with what seems like a good dating resume. There are single, crazy people out there with PHD's and there are wholesome, hardworking single mothers and fathers out there. So do not let your standards build a smoke screen over your eyes leading you to settle "up".

See what happens if settle...

Love and dating is complicated but you havecontrol to some extent. Dating will be easier once you learn that love isnot a ticking time bomb being defused by SWAT. Time is of the essence sono more pointless dates and situations. Settling for love is like a 3rdgrader cheating on his spelling quiz. Cutting corners will gain younothing; a loser will not sweep you off your feet because you pursue arelationship with them. But on the other side of the spectrum do not fallfor wolves in sheep clothing. Someone who has a lot going for them but theirpersonality, lifestyle is not to your liking. You have some happy momentswith them but can you see yourself until death do you part? Like Common said“we fell in love just to fall apart now.” Practice discretion whiledating, if you discuss qualities you are seeking from your lover a wolf canplay the role until they are bored with you. The motto for 2012 is todate smarter, not harder. Let your brain lead you into their arms not yourheart.

Thirst: The Great Misconception by @TheLastJ

2011-11-12T12:54:00.001-05:00

I tweeted some shit one day about Urkle and the Thirst and then one of my boysshowed me this piece by the homey @TheLastJ. Only right I spred the love andgive you "The Thirst" from another angle and good POV. Check it out and as usual leave feedback, we would love it.

Salutations,greetings, and long winded gang, affiliated handshakes to everyone out here onthese innanet streets. Most importantly, to the good folk of the L’Creme Nationfor allowing me to share some thoughts with the people via public librarycomputer (which I may or may not have strong-armed from some 12 year old).Today I, Jr aka Black Galifianakis aka Young Pocket Lint aka Dances with EmptyWallets, want to clear up some mistaken notions regarding an instance that weall may or may have not experienced; Thirst. But before we get into certainintricacies of thirst, we must first find a fundamental understanding of what thirstmeans. Let us open up our dictionaries, shall we?

Thirst(n): strong or eager desire;craving; an intense need.

Thirst.We all experience it, reciprocate it, some feed off of it, and others may berepulsed by it. Thirst in regards to basic necessities, are a given. But thirstin regards to courting the opposite sex seems to be the Rubik’s cube of lifesome have yet to solve. Thirst is necessary, especially when seeking theaffections of big booty Shauna who lives down the block, yet is oblivious toyour swaggerless existence. Its something that should be handled and monitoredwith care. The reason why thirst seems to bamboozle even the smoothest ofplayers(and playettes) is that gauging the person being courted is NEVER easy.

Examplesof such miscalculations can be seen on Nick at Nite daily, from bayside High’sown Screech, to Steve Urkel. You could even toss Stephon Urquelle up on thatlist of cats who fumbled in the red zone. In Steve and Screech’s cases, theywere too aggressive(insufficient swag levels notwithstanding). Flowers, poems,colossal displays of affection towards women they hadn’t even seen naked yet. Allthese simptastic things only gave Lisa Turtle and Laura Winslow more of areason to never buss it open for them.

Oneof the many Thirst Violation—>http://youtu.be/ST4YSoLyexs

Nowon the other end of the spectrum, Stephon Urquelle was the smoothest thing toever happen to the Friday night 8pm time slot on ABC. But he too had hismiscues, his swag alone had laura open, all he had to was put a small piece ofthirst bait out there and wait for her to deliver the box on a platter.—>http://youtu.be/ljt6RingEuk

Nah,but Stephon chose to take his unprecedented levels of swagdom far beyond thehuman limits and in turn, turned Laura off. And he NEVER got see that good goodshe had to offer. Who says TV doesn’t offer life lessons?

**Side note**Maxine and Myra were always, to me, badder than Laura. This is notup for discussion.

Asof late, it seems some folk have misinterpreted the meaning of thirst. Ontwitter and facebook, there’s a plethora of conceited, self centered women(andmen) who take pride in “exposing” their interpretation of thirst. For monthsnow I’ve witnessed the screencaps and twitpics of people pouring their wholebeing into a private message, that is sent in confidence, only to end up as apunchline on some message board or timeline. Lets get a few things straighthere: If someone who you never spoke to lets you know how they feelabout you, its not thirst. But if you denied his or her previous 13 advances,its thirst. There seem to be some people who never got anyattention before they found out what an ethernet cord was, so now that they geta some attention they turn their noses up and toss up tweets and facebookstatus updates such as: “OMG these Ni**as be sweating me, i know immabad B*tch…. fall back. ugh…” or “I got hoes I ont’ een know onmy dick cuh, guess they feelin the swag, nyamshayin’?”. The fuck outa here,if those ever so lonely souls never dropped those tender, heart felt messages,in your inbox you’d be on Christian Mingle right now telling some 350 poundwhale hiding behind a photoshopped picture that you’d drink their bathwaterlike hot top ramen water in January. I completely understand if there was evera place for fronting, the internet was that place. But fronting at the expenseof others, was never cool, especially when your self esteem is lower than aBobby Valentino ankle sock.

Listenpeople, thirst is cool. As I stated before its necessary, when done inmoderation its a great way to let that other person know you’re interested. Itshouldn’t be used as documented ransom during an internet beef. If a man wantsto display thirst to that chick with table coasters over her areolas in hertwitcon, if a woman wants to send dehydrated e-letters of love to the guy thatphotoshopped his head on Ll cool J’s body, so be it. Let em cook. You neverknow how it’ll work out for them. All we ask is that it stay how it started, inprivacy.

“Weare thirst, thirst is we. Thirst is life.” – Anon

Peaceout.

The Thin Line Between Swag and Thirst

2011-11-12T00:37:00.001-05:00

The Thirst is nothing new; it is the bastard child of"sweating" and "compliments". Junior High school into highschool the thirst was more genuine. House phones and AOL were the only outletsto your chick outside of school. But around high school cell phonesstarted to become regular so you had access to her 24 hours a day. Then in college when texting became the norm along with the release of the Sidekick, you hadunlimited access to vag nationwide. With social networks though, shit itwas like the parting of the Red Sea to the box, a simple poke use to get youfar in the early years of Facebook. Regardless of all the benefits the Internethas done leading you to the no pants dance with someone a few bad apples havespoiled the bunch. Take Exhibit A for example.

Swag is natural and your approach with Internet flirting can makeor break you if your swag is equivalent of Steve Urkle. Doingshit like the above has turned women off and caused the elite males to againevolve their methods of approach with the current tools in the pursuit of vag. Let me help those who are confused on how to approach women on the web. I am not writing this to help you get more box, I am trying to have youthirsty dudes refine your approach to avoid being the topic of discussion atthe hair salon. Yeah there are plenty ofwomen out there looking to screen cap you thirsty niggas so lets see how to be2 steps ahead of these vile ladies. (Note I still didn't stoop down to callthem bitches, even though they are wrong for what they do).

Comment Strategically

No reason for a female to have 500 pics and you liked or commentedon 400 of them. You are giving her too much of your time before you evenhave her. Why are you complimenting a woman you never even seen inperson? Even if you have seen her around the way, campus or the workplace don'tresort to Facebook/Twitter to grab her attention. You actually can usesocial networks to grab her attention but we will go into that later. Isee why women say niggas is dumb. The funniest situations are females whopost half naked pics and you see a tsunami of thirst on her pics what is thesense of using a different adjective and stating the same shit 73 other dudesalready said? No, that’s thirsty! It's not worth it. The thing Ihave yet to figure out is what is your purpose in complimenting a woman you donot even know. Do you compliment your mother or your queen lying next toyou randomly like these thirst traps? Priorities my friends, show thirst to theone to humping not the one you crushing.

Know When To Walk Away

First and foremost never, ever call a girl to confirm her numberwhen you are in the process of bagging. Bagging does not consist of aconfirmation or tracking number like UPS so calm your ass down. You areactually setting yourself up for failure when you do lame shit like that. You know how many times girls have told me they stored dudes as "Do NotPick Up" when you try to confirm the number when you bag. You know thereare apps out there to blacklist numbers so certain numbers are always sent to voicemail. So don't think her phone is always dead if you only hear hervoicemail. Why don't you dudes take a hint anyway? No reason tocall a female you just met multiple times, crazy shit is some of you dudesfollow the missed call up with a text. If you a real G you know a missedcall equates to a voicemail and text message. No need for all that thirstyou only time you can follow a missed call with a text is with your queen whenyou are arguing.

Beware of Thirst Traps and But-Her-Head Chicks
Birds look to capitalize off anything. So you know they went crazywith this whole thirst "movement". If her avatar is focused onher cleavage or her ass she is a thirst trap. Especially when she announces heravatar change, "New avi, tell me what you think". Thirst Trapsuse the Internet as a self-esteem booster. Real bad bitches do not needmen gawking at them over bandwidth they have too many real careers, dudes, lifeissues etc. to juggle between. You now on Facebook messaging or DM herafter she puts up lusty pics do you think she is paying you any mind? Doyou think you are the only dude trying to bag? The shit that makes iteven worse is dudes thirst over wack Internet chicks. Like yes they arestacked in the right places but look at her grill! There is a reason why heravatars on the web are 50% cleavage; she looks like Craig Mack's fraternaltwin. Even if she is good looking stop boosting these lame broadsself-esteem. Hopefully you are giving the chick that is sticking with your ass,through thick and thin the same praise. Youneed to carefully observe how a female uses a social network. Are they using it as a personal diary for alltheir sexual fantasies? If she only talks about how horny she is or her talentsin the bedroom don’t give her the time of day. How would you feel if yourmother or sister just talked about sex in public all day? Not pretty right?Well do not encourage or entertain online filth. It only shows what they areabout and what they have to offer to men in real life.

Thirst Trap in the flesh

Stop using Social Networks as hook up sites

Have you ever had the privilege to review a femalefriend's social network message box? Same way we have promoters who fillour messages boxes with party flyers I think some dudes copy and paste messagesin every female message box, basically promoting their dick. Like theshit I have read like I really liked your profile, I like the way you think,you seem so interesting so I would really love to get to know you. Areyou serious bro??!! You feel a connection off of a females Facebook profile?You clearly had imaginary friends growing up. Again it is allabout approach, I doubt you will brighten up a ladies day because you areprofessing your love to her being you both liked “Maid In Manhattan” on Facebook.

Remember the scene in Training Day when Alonzo asks Hoyt if he wantsto be a "Sheep or a Wolf"? You need to walk in the mirrorbefore you send another thirsty tweet and ask yourself, “Do I want to beStephan or Urkel?” There is nothing wrong with giving compliments, if youtruly admire your queen you find beauty in anything she does, walk, talk, shitthe way she blinks. But approaching females, especially on the Internetwith no decorum, no type of swag, that is Urkle. There are plenty ofambitious, beautiful, authentic women out there who don't seek attentionfrom social network savages. Approach is everything, so stop professingyour admiration for a person behind a keyboard. Especially before youeven have a conversation with her. Don't give her your number just because sheaccepted your friend request or because she followed you back. Take your timein pursuing Internet box. Think about the amount of thirst women encounter daily,real life and virtually, wouldn't it be smarter to stand out from the typical thirsty approaches? What did thirst get Urkle? Real G's, no Wayne, know that females have more funchasing a man compared to being chased. Practice the "swindle" approach,it is the safest your way to her box. While every dude is flooding hermessage boxes with phone numbers and lusty comments just be friendly. TheInternet makes the barrier of trust even harder to get over so build a decent rapport with her before asking for a different form of contact.

Weird how I amhere trying to help other men acquire more box right? Wrong! The imbalance of elite men vs. thirst men is ridiculous. Let's stop giving ammo to the thirst traps and build a skill set of sophistication for the REAL ladies. The ladies have an even bigger guard up now because the savages have turned them off with their antics. Limitthe thirst then the Internet fishing for box can have better results for all.

"I've been Urkel for some years, its better beingJaleel"

Crowe, Davis, Obama and You

2011-09-27T14:18:00.001-04:00

Land of the free, home of the slave. No one can argue minoritiesstill get the short end of the stick in America. Blacks are expected to go tojail, the Spanish are expected to take low paying jobs that no one wants andNative Americans, well no one really is concerned with them. The streets wepiss and spit on outside is actually the land of Native Americans, we tend toforget. Anyway I am just writing today because I am confused on some of thingsregarding the late Troy Davis.

Mr. Davis has been the talk of the town for the past few weeksbecause of his efforts to avoid execution for a crime, which is safe to say hedid not commit. Evidence was questionable; witnesses’ testimonies werereversed yet Mr. Davis was executed by the state of Georgia. It hasbeen a couple of days but unlike most media binges that grabs your attentionand is averted elsewhere, the death of Mr. Davis crosses my mind more than oncea day. Thing is I am so confused, why does the Georgia Board of Pardonsand Paroles have so much power? Why is there not a system of checks andbalances set up like our "beloved" government? Our judicialsystem is set in place to protect us from killers, thugs and hooligans fromwrecking havoc on the street. They felt the world was a better place thoughby killing Mr. Davis, it must be a regular occurrence for killers tostart worldwide campaigns seeking clemency for crimesthey committed? I am not one to pull the race card but shortly afterthe execution I found out about Samuel David Crowe. Now Samuel also a residentof Georgia WAS going to be executed. Why wasn't he you ask? WellSamuel was granted clemency two hours before his scheduled execution. Samuelwas on death row for admitting to the murder of Joseph Pala. Pala who wasthe manager of a lumber store where Samuel use to work was shot three times,beaten with a crowbar and a pot of paint.

"After careful and exhaustive consideration of the requests, the board voted to grant clemency. The board voted to commute the sentence to life without parole," the parole board said."

Where was this careful consideration for Mr. Davis? Thislast minute decision was made based on Samuel's good behavior and his defenseargued that the crime was committed during a withdrawal ofcocaine. Again I'm not one to pull the race card but a black man was notgiven careful consideration with a campaign of thousands ofpetitioners, backing from government officials and witnesstestimonies reversed. Yet a non-colored man with good behavior was ableto avoid execution for a much more brutal crime he admittingto committing. Oh ok.

The other thing that has me confused is where is my man Barryduring all of this? Legally there was no way for Obama to save Mr. Davisbut he has that plateau to voice his opinion. Same way these politiciansspeak out on injustices occurring overseas as a fifty percent blackman and the struggles of our race I feel like he should have addressed theinjustices endured by Mr. Davis. Fuck the politics, Fuck the reelection. Shit like this sways me to not even vote. It’s pointless with the Electoral College but that’s another story. You have a duty not only to your country but also to your race. You knowhow much support Obama gets from minorities just because they can relate to himbased on his skin color. It would have been an honor to tell my kids"Obama was a real nigga" (not literally with that wording lol). Thinkabout the ambition kids would have for Obama, as a black man who worked his wayup to become leader of this ~~great~~ country and he held his people down! Maybe itsjust me but the morale of our generation went down the drain just seeinginjustice on a large scale. I mean messed up shit happens to us every day; wehave to protect ourselves from our own peers and the police.

We have seen the stories of people likeMichael Anthony Green, Alan Newton and James Bain, a very short list ofindividuals wrongfully convicted. Wrongfully convicted is probably thelegal equivalent of being buried alive but Mr. Davis a jail sentencewas not enough to make the family of Mark McPhail happy. Even the McPhailfamily has me confused in this situation. The supposed murderer of yourfamily member received support from all these people, fought literally down tothe wire to avoid execution so the McPhail family should have been on the frontline to ensure the killer was given justice. So you did nothing to stopthe execution of an innocent man while the real killer is in Perfectionsslapping ass? You are no better than the real killer McPhail family, not onlyis Mark gone but you are an accessory to Mr. Davis death in my book. Again maybe it is just me, but shit doesn't add up.

How do you feel though? Do you thinkObama should have issued a statement? I mean shit he is only the President andhe did tell me we were going to get "Change". The situation theMcPhail family has endured is not common so maybe we all cannot relate but doyou think like McPhail family could have handled it differently? I justcan't image our kids reading about this in the history books. When wewere taught about the civil rights movement for 20 minutes, luckily if thatlong, during Black History Month, didn't it make you look at your teacherdifferent for the day? Like your great-great grandfather did what? Withthe crazy summer of violence in NYC and shit like the execution of Mr. Davis itfeels like our generation is only moving backwards. Fuck Ray J’s red hoodie andlets organize before it is too late.

I Don't Have No Title For This Shit

2011-08-25T19:03:00.000-04:00

Simple ways to keep your man from cheating on you? Simple ways to keep your relationship interesting? There is so much ladies can get from the topic I am about to touch I could not even title this blog. It's sad that I do have to write this though but it makes sense with so many young queens walking around bitter on they "Fuck Niggas" shit. #WhoHurtYou booboo? Sometimes we have to look in the mirror at past relationships and figure out what I could have done differently. Stop focusing on how fucked up that person was and try to see your faults. This way you can grown and work on yourself in your next situation and avoid a cycle of fruitless relationships.

Well folks I want to talk about periods. I tweeted something a week or two ago about the correlation of periods and rain. They always seem to always come at the wrong time and spoil you from having fun. Nothing like spending time with a chick or commuting to her house get in the bed, start fooling around and being told "I can't" when you go for her pants. Women have told me that they look at the period as a hinderance, mainly because they are extremely horny during that time. Well ladies its actually a blessing in more than one way.

Well the obvious blessing is that you are probably not pregnant. You can still please you man without sexing in the shower also. I know a few of you are laughing right now you tried that shower period sex at one point of our life. Or threw a towel under her ass because it's her last day. #Dontjudgeme if you didn't with your Sister Mary Lazarus ass (Google her lol). Back to the topic, sacrifice is a little word which comes along with relationship. So don't be shy and "Touch It or just kiss it, shit do something" (c) Kanye West. I am not promoting anal, plenty of guys like myself have no interest in your anus, I look in the toilet after I shit, nothing pleasant exists our bodies. So I would rather not explore whats going on up there. Safe to say that oral sex is enjoyed and on the syllabus of a couples sex life. So you probably give head the other 3 weeks out of the month when you are not bleeding so why because you are shut down we have to get shut down also? Ladies have failed to realize how simple men are to please the little shit can go a long way. A woman will remember the time you randomly brought her flowers, simple gestures that will get you far but for a man we don't want flowers and crap. Head during that time of the month is the easiest way to say I care. Truthfully you shouldn't even wait for him to ask or gesture for the head. You know your man, you know when he is turned on. Same way you like the surprise flowers men like surprise head.

Really, you not going to kiss it for me?

Besides giving period head as an action to profess your love for your boo, it keeps the home happy and can be a deterrent for a man to go astray. You know your man, yes you may be horny and upset you are bleeding but again why should he suffer? If you really hate your period so much go check with your doctor and get birth control. If that isn't an option get on your knees. Not trying to sound harsh but your man may suddenly spend time with his "friends" during the week of your cycle. We all know the saying with relationships "What ever you don't do someone out there will". So shit maybe the other chick is on her cycle also but just that simple "special attention" as the great, late Bernie Mac would say can make you #2 temporarily. I'm not saying ever month you have to give head for a week. Make sure all the other elements are there which makes the man deserving of period head. He respects you, treats you like his queen and cherishes what the two of you have. You don't give a child candy after coming home with all F's so don't reward a so/so man/boyfriend/boo/fuck buddy what ever you call him with the luxurious period head. Just remember ladies the power is in your hands, or mouth that is. "So get down or lay down", alone.

The Transition to Loneliness

2011-08-08T16:57:00.001-04:00

Times have changed greatly. You use to be able to pull "its not you its me" on someone you are dealing with and go your separate ways but recovery times on relationships can go for months, years for some. The abuse on the mental, emotional and physical could leave a dent on one's soul. Maybe the two parties were just not compatible relationship wise but it still may leave a mark, especially with time invested. Good break up or bad do you think it is possible to be friends with your ex??

Good breakup or bad time is a necessity if a friendship is desired after. Feelings do not disappear with a simple nose twinkle like Bewitched, so space is needed. Relationships especially long term ones will build routines and habits that you must adjust out of. It could be that daily text during lunch or dinner together at your favorite restaurant but the transition is not going to be easy. Love is such a beautiful thing, giving you the feeling your life was missing that one thing until he/she came into your life. Funny thing is that love can be broken easier than a twig. Reconstruction will be a bitch but its possible once you remember who you were before your lover. Love can be blinding where you forget that you actually had a life before that person came into your life. Hopefully you do get something from the relationship and leave a better person. Unfortunately you can leave feeling like this inside.

But you must remember they didn't make you the man/woman you are unless you are Amber Rose. This transition period is the most crucial if a friendship is desired after because your lover will eventually move on and unless you suppress those feelings and move on you will only dig yourself deeper into a hole of loneliness. Nothing is worse than finding out your ex-lover has moved on yet you still have feelings for them. So distance is critical for ones sanity.

So cool now you know you need to distance yourself what's next? Make yourself the center of your life, do something exciting, pick up a hobby you haven't showed attention in a while. Activity and productivity is key, anything to not remind you of that person. Like I stated in the beginning there is no set time period on getting over someone, love will have you feeling like "I'm on one" without substance intake. So don't try to cheat and fuck your feelings away. No matter how strong you felt your bond was sitting around, sobbing, hoping they will show up at your door one day is shit strictly for the movies. Now if you are interested in a friendship just let it happen. Do not call and try to reminisce on what you had. Friendly, general conversation only. You can not talk every day, even if it is friendly those feelings can resurface if you interact too much. Outings are out of the question. Even group outings can be dangerous. Couple of drinks and then you want that old thing back. Especially if one of the parties is involved with someone new. Safe to say everyone reading this has either been involved directly or known someone who had relationship issues because of "close friendships" with an ex-lover.

All in all I believe it is possible for ex-lovers to be friends after the relationship has ended. It is impossible if both parties are not mature. I believe some adults actually never past the age 16 mentally but that's another story. Relationships are like scars some are ugly, some are cute but it is a lifelong reminder of an event or situation of your life. But plastic surgery is not going to be an option for the scar on your heart. Every situation is different, the ways you get involved with someone. It could be a co-worker or a stripper of a club you frequent regardless that transitional period from strangers to lovers also determines if a friendship is possible after parting ways. Unless a friendship existed before the relationship don't even bother considering post-relationship. It will be much harder to house a friendship without a foundation for that home.

Thoughts? Do you think it is possible to be friends with your ex?

Hoe Logic 101

2011-07-01T15:46:00.000-04:00

The definition of a hoe is like trying to explain whether the glass is half empty or half full. Regardless of your thoughts on the term there are a few things we can agree on when it comes to hoes. Hoes have their own ideology that they follow; I like to call it hoe logic. For the most part this logic is flawed but I guess hoes have aspirations with "successful" hoes like Karrine Steffans and Kat Stacks. Not the most respectable women but they give hoes dreams.

No I am not bashing the hoes of the world, to each its own but plenty of hoes don't seem to understand privileges they relinquish by moving like a hoe. I say move like a hoe because generally people would consider a women a hoe based on her body count but it’s bigger than that. I know women with larger than normal body counts but they are not considered hoes. Women have failed to realize it is all about how you carry yourself, a body count is just a piece of the puzzle. I understand we are all humans so you have needs, desires but don't ever say, "I think and move like a dude". Reasoning for sex will never be the same for men and women; sorry that's just the double-edged sword booboo. So now onto the hoe logic.

Being a hoe isn't a secret

You can have a body count but you cannot be mixxy. If you are over all the social networks, in every event and building your body count with dudes from similar circles (promoters, photographers, drug dealers etc.) you will build a household name like Oprah but not in such a positive light. If your body count is rising from dudes who took you home after an event, dudes who you met recently on a social network without any type of building process trust you are the topic of local barbershops conversations. Everyone has those bodies on their belt they did just because. But if you are taking down dudes without building with them, phone not text conversations, real dates not kiddy shit like the movies basically giving it up without any work you are a case of flawed hoe logic.

Pussy Faxes never expire

You vag is as marketable as the last body you took down. If your history shows a particular type of dude the next man that approaches you and does his research will follow suit. In order to prosper in the pussy race a man must know his competition. So he knows dudes who can easily catch bodies on their own merit and dudes who cheat with things like eating box and tricking. If you have multiple "alpha males" on your list, dudes who catch bodies with little to no work you will continue to not get treated like a lady. Think about how many dudes actually invited you out prior to inviting you to their crib. Even though they cannot speak your pussy lips did all the talking before you even gave that dude your number.

Know the 6 degrees of vag-eration

This always puzzled me how women try to take down teams of dudes. Actually they jump off with one dude from a circle then start talking to one of his friends. They try to make the second person to actually date them though! Ladies if you didn't know men talk, maybe more than women. How do you think your pussy fax is updated? One man's trash is not another's man wifey, so please ladies once you deal with a dude know that his circle is off limits. Why would you even try to deal with a dude who takes seconds from his own mans? If vag can alter his loyalty to his boys you think he will forever be a good man to you? Think again.

Be Yourself

It's crazy how social networks has been the source to finding out the true colors of people you have known for years. I know all the dos and don'ts of nice, god-fearing women I grew up with. Why? Because of Facebook and Twitter. There is not reason you use the Internet as a personal diary discussing personal business, especially your bedroom antics. The saying "lady in the sheets, freak in the sheets goes a long way". Wonder why every dude you encounter wants you to come over to "chill". Don't write a status that your vag can't cash.

Lady in the streets...

You must carry yourself like your box is priceless. You don't need Gucci and Dior for a man to respect you or to be considered a lady. Fuck all that material bullshit, a good weave will not benefit you 10 years from now and keep a man happy. Talk like a lady; show your excellent parenting skills. Think a dude respects a club rat with a toddler? Those club-hopping days ended boo once you let him enter your chamber of love without protection. If your fridge is empty, your kid is not going to school with fresh Nike's this September but you are posing off your new Gucci bag on a party website then you have failed at life. Men also do not respect the bitter women who talk shit about their baby father on the Internet. Talking shit on the internet will not bring him into your child's life, focus on making the life of your child better and get a fucking diary. Spreading negativity to the masses is never the solution. If you cannot captivate a man mentally then more than likely you will get treated like a hoe. Get some culture; educate your self on current events not just shit from Necole Bitchie. Have you ever seen a Willow Smith interview? No reason she can hold an conversation better than some grown women. You have nothing to bring to the table if you lack in these qualities. You will then get treated accordingly if you talk like a loud, ignorant hoodrat in the streets, you will be treated like a hoe.

Basically what @Suckerfreewes and I are trying to say is be a lady. Sadly men generally try to tell a book by its cover, so if you walk around in skimpy shit, write slack shit on the internet and can always be found in the mix, men will categorize you as a hoe. We are not against women in skimpy clothing :) but do not forget you are a lady first. Your style, walk, talk all plays a factor in how men treat you. Again being a hoe is not all about body count, you can be a hoe with a "reasonable" body count. We are just asking for some of you hoes to grow up, time to stop being a girl and become a woman. I know ladies are not interested in raising a big ass boy but if you display hoeish qualities then you will never attract a REAL MAN.

S/O to the homey @Suckerfreewes for his input on this piece be sure to hit us up with your thoughts and opinions on this blog on Twitter.

The Evolution of Relationships

2011-06-03T16:49:00.000-04:00

Men and women love to be in love. The pursuit and approach of seeking love is totally different between the sexes, which causes the never-ending tension between men and women. For men girlfriends just happen, there may be a woman of our interests in our life but we will not change how we act, talk, dress etc. That is until we are in a relationship you may see actual changes in a man, pussy is that powerful to change SOME men. Women on the other hand will put their heart on the line just to say they have a man. Change places where they hang out, how they dress, talk, even stop having sex just waiting for that special someone to sweep them off their feet so they can live happily ever after. Unfortunately ladies it doesn't work this way if you want a boyfriend. The sad thing is a woman will settle for a "situationship" just to say they have someone. Not everything like a real relationship but from the outside looking in she has a shoulder to cry on, someone who picks her up from the train after work, a man who breaks her back out before the credits start rolling when they watch Netflix. Not sure if you are in a situationship or a relationship? Lets discuss some key factors that separate the real from the false hopes.

The little things matter most

So your "man" calls and says he is on his way to your house and you tell him you are hungry. Nothing serious you ask him to pick you up McDonalds before he comes, cool, click. Now a man who you been involved with at least 6 months or more could pick up your meal exactly the way you like it, in a relationship that is. In a situationship the little things like this do not count. He does not pick up on your habits, likes, dislikes and concerns. Yeah you have a toothbrush at his house but do you have pads there? Most would look over these things but a man who takes you serious and is really looking for longevity studies you.

Don't be caught into routine

After dealing with someone for some time you start to build a routine, that's natural in relationships. But have you ever found yourself in a fake 25 plus year marriage? Do you only see your "boyfriend" in the house? Yes some guys don't go out every weekend but everyone has some sort of social life. If you are never apart of his social life you aren't really his girlfriend. Men love to show off what they have like cars and clothing. But nothing boosts a man ego more than walking out with his bad bitch on his arm. If he tries to act like he is too busy to take you out or never takes you to birthday/game night gatherings with his friends quit while you are ahead. If a year has pasted by and you never held a conversation with his right hand man and his mother/father you are in a situationship.

Life doesn't change so quickly

Broke rarely comes overnight. Young people have a tendency to "fake it until to make it"; men are masters of this skill actually. We all know the easiest way to attract more box is with material items. Why do you think niggas rather sell drugs compared to getting degrees? Biggie told us "Money, cars, hoes and clothes, all a nigga knows". But we have situations after the bottles are popped and the Red Lobster biscuits are done where he doesn't have time for you or money for all the fun you two have before the sex. But I bet he has time for sex though. After months of complaining about how he changed you are now crying to your girlfriends about how he doesn't treat you like he use to. Smarten up he is obviously giving someone else that treatment you once had, no matter how hard it is if a dude is interested in you genuinely he will make it happen somehow. It may not be luxurious as before because he really is fucked up in the game but if his heart is with you he will put a smile on your face even if its with peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. (Has to be extreme circumstances for PB&J's though lol).

Life is too damn short and as you approach thirty start using your brain not only your heart. Your heart can steer you wrong no matter how good you may think he/she is for you. Hope for change is how a lot of single mother situations are derived. Summer is here so everyone is trying to have fun but do not become someone's personal joke.

Pearl Necklaces, Orgies and You

2011-05-16T16:05:00.000-04:00

Relationships require a lot of compromise and sacrifice. It could be you allowing a plethora of testosterone to take over the living room to watch the playoffs or you taking her to see the latest Tyler Perry movie, watching it and discussing it with her after (that's love). A major area of compromise occurs in the bedroom but should an individual have limits? Infidelity is probably one of the biggest fears and culprits of break ups of our generation so is it worth going all out in hopes to deter your lover from stepping out?
As a youth watching porn I thought sex was fairly simple, insert, in and out a couple of times and splash, all pun intended. But with the blessing of the internet and free porn we have been introduced to all types of porn genres and fetishes. Those porn fetishes are not filmed out of boredom, people like your boyfriend or girlfriend is actually into that kind of stuff. You thought you was freaky because you tried 69 before have you tried anal, squirting, fisting, bondage, bukkake and orgies? Some may view those acts as weird and nasty while to others its a turn on. What is one to do when your lover brings this to the table though? The relationship has been going well, the chemistry seems to be there in the bedroom but suddenly you are hit with an outrageous request from your lover to eat your ass. I don't know if that was a fair example because from discussions I've had with female friends there are plenty of brothers exploring small intestines with their tongues.

More power to you bros

But anyway back to the topic at hand, it's a big risk to deny your lover what they want in the bedroom. We are all aware though that anything you won't do will gladly be fulfilled by another person.

Should double standards of the sexes be a factor in terms of bedroom requests? I can easily bet all my white blood cells that my male counterparts would not turn down a threesome with two women if their girlfriend/wife allowed them. But what if your girl requested a three some with you and Trey Songz, no man would be cool with that shit. If a woman's fantasy was to be dominated by two men at the same time in the bedroom she would probably be looked down upon anyway because two men with one woman "isn't" a threesome that is a train. So is it right to request all your fantasies with your lover or should you try to suppress these desires and only have sex through the hole in your boxers in missionary position? According to some the world will be coming to an end soon so you better start crossing off goals of that bucket list because time is limited folks.

Where is love?

2011-05-05T20:29:00.000-04:00

Love is what we want
And if often mistaken as a need
Countless years spent
Aimlessly searching high low and In between
Have you ever looked in the mirror
To realize the presence of love can not be found
We find ourselves seeking love
But why?
Love was never lost
Love is pure and natural
But mistakenly is often turned into greed
Lusting for love same way we lust for green
We go to all extents to gain ones love
Most cases you will end up broke alone Sometimes leads to creation of a child which requires love of its own
Love doesn't happen in mistakes like that child you created
But the prisons love to lock up niggas who seek love in all the wrong places
The epicenter of love
Is the love that you have for you
Open your eyes stop believing love is laying in the bed next to you
Because physical love can be more fake
Than china town Gucci shoes
Don't be depressed because that cute guy won't call you back
Stop texting shorty because she said your swag was everything except intact
You was born alone possibly die alone too
Save your energy looking for love
And put that energy into you

He loves me, He loves me not

2011-04-22T00:07:00.001-04:00

Relationships are hard. One of the hardest parts of relationships is walking away from them. Love is such a powerful emotion. After giving your heart to someone there is basically no limit what one will do to bring happiness to his or her mate. Its weird though because no matter how much he/she cheats, no matter how much he beats you that person still means the world to you. Extreme examples but that is the reality plenty of our peers are living all in the name of love.
Now in our roaring twenties approaching the big 3-0 we are in pursuit of our goals and aspirations. Looking to fulfill like landing a dream job, making that first major purchase of a car or home or paying off those evil student loans some common endeavors of our generation. While on your journey I have encountered plenty associates of mine who don't plan on taking a life mate with them on this road. I don't think it is weird anymore when I hear someone say, "I don't think I am ever getting married". Life long matrimony has become as irrelevant with our generation but we have no problem exercising our gift of giving life. But why do we build a life long bond (a child) with a person you cannot see a future with? I'll wait...

Yes I know some of you are saying every situation is unique but I've personally seen messed up situations/relationships get worse when pregnancy becomes a factor. If feels like we gave up on family. Ever get a surprised expression when you tell someone you don't have any kids? How many times is “are you married” the leading question before the kids question? I'll wait again...

People who talk to me on a personal level know I do not plan on bringing life into this world until I put a ring on it, no Beyoncé. Some are surprised and intrigued by my discipline on the situation, I find it weird my male counterparts don't have the same mentality. Like I said earlier break ups is one of the hardest parts of a relationship so why keep a bond with someone who gives me the same feeling like the application of IcyHot?

Sometimes kids are not a factor and it is still difficult to walk away from a relationship. Shit was sweet in high school even college. We were young, wet behind the ears about love, commitment and relationships but shit got extremely serious with age, who has time to change girlfriends every semester any more. Relationships get more expensive, time consuming and emotional so someone that you thought was going to be a fling is now asking about moving in together or taking a vacation together. It's crazy whom you end up dealing with a year or more, time flies! Time leads many to feel like they have to settle in a relationship and stay together because who wants to be lonely? We usually get signs early in relationships of stuff that you find unbearable but love is good to give one hope, thinking that your lover will change to make you happy. It is possible but it is highly unlikely and rare, "you can not teach a old dog new tricks". So what is one to do? Would it benefit you leaving a situation early on to avoid getting "comfortable"? Comfort in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean happiness but we know it is not easy going from a so-so situation to no situation. What do you think? Leave from early if there are characteristics you cannot tolerate long term or hope for change, no Obama? Why is it so hard to leave after investing a couple of months into someone and that investment does not flourish? Let's discuss.

"Let's be happy apart instead of together upset" - Fabolous

The 3rd wheel

2011-03-30T21:39:00.000-04:00

This is something I found in my blackberry from last Fall. Just decided to finish it so I wanted to hear your thoughts on social networks and relationships.

I always try to image life before the 90's. The fashion was definitely hot prior to the 90's but technology sucked. Can you imagine those nights sun down to sun up in your school computer lab without Google? Group projects without cell phones and email? Wild shit right, tell me about it. But the blessing of technology and the Internet is a bittersweet relationship. Now in 2010 technology we live twice, once in reality and secondly via status updates. We are able to connect, share, laugh, and love our family and friends close and afar through social websites. We all know though that plenty of people use social websites for purposes other than actually networking. Instead of paying for Match.com and getting charged to find individuals compatible with you, you can join Facebook and search for women in a specific region and poke away. Some women have found that mountain of "greatness" and grabbed the attention of others through "model" pics. Some professional or some not, like the infamous bathroom mirror shots in little to no clothing. Social networks also give you the chance to display your orientation and relationship status, which is irrelevant to plenty of fiendish love seekers, with a society where infidelity is embraced and expected. But you can be your own worst enemy compared to all the friendly with filthy intention Facebook messages and pokes your mate will receive. Do you think your Internet relationship should change due to your real life relationship changes? If you always posted model pics glorifying your assets should you take them down and discontinue posting? There is no way to stop men from gazing and commenting because of a relationship change. Men are also subject to changes after getting into a relationship. Men may refer to their female friends as babe, boo in a strictly friendly fashion. Is it right for a woman to tell her boyfriend he has to choose his words better when writing on walls and commenting on pics? Think about the wall he may be writing on also, what if she is involved with someone. Her boyfriend will not be trilled seeing a man referring to his lady as babe, cutie etc. Since college and the erection of Facebook, MySpace etc. I have seen, heard and been involved with relationship quarrels over the aforementioned situations some much smaller, refusing to change status to "In a relationship" to bigger, with ex lovers trying to rekindle a flame via the social networks. How can you avoid altercation with a potential baby mother/father (j/k) in regards to your interactions on the Internet?.

1. Don’t join or deactivate your accounts

2. Being #1 is not an option for most you can try not being friends with your loved one online

3. Rise above the ignorance, we have been programmed now to not trust the opposite sex but give your lover the benefit of the doubt that they are genuine and true to you. What happens in the dark will come to light no need to cyber stalk to find clues.

Why the hell do you need to let all your virtual friends know you recently got involved or broke up with a person? Ever sat in the middle of a couple’s argument while commuting to work? John Doe is no longer in a relationship with Jane Doe. Five minutes later John is now in a relationship with Jane. Twelve hours later they are no longer in a relationship again. Like what the hell do people argue with their finger on the mouse?. Remember when you got a boyfriend/girlfriend from a piece of paper with circle Yes/No/Maybe? We have become slaves to our technology and let it into our bedrooms. Another good way to avoid future arguments and issues is changing your style from now. I know plenty of you mean no harm when you refer to your friends as hun and babe but people read into everything and insecurity is present to some extent in every relationship. So give your self a head start and break out of those habits. I can't really give suggestions to the model pic situations. I never seen America's Top Model recruit girls via social network profiles so use your common sense. Put more effort into achieving your dream if you really want to be a model instead of posting half naked pictures on the Internet to obtain attention of lame horny guys. Gentlemen go read a book on hooking up with girls or something also. I have looked through a female's photo album and seen a guy; sometimes they come in a bunch, commenting on all the same pictures. If you walk down the street and see a bunch of beautiful women do you stop them all to give them compliments? Actually some lame dudes do that. The rules of engagement should not be different via reality and the Internet.

Thirsty is the new swag

I throw up in my mouth every time I see a status of someone who has tried to create a new life or personality via these social networks. Who are you trying to impress? The Internet has become the Summer Jam screen so eventually you will be exposed so lets bring it down a notch and be yourself. We have become slaves, ~~myself included at one point~~, to these networks. Discussing, posting filthy photographs and videos of our peers and spreading personal business of others on these networks.

We joke, we laugh at each other on these networks but the laughter stops once it turns to blood shed. (Most of us heard about the lady killed over a pair of pampers, if not click here).

More than likely you are involved in some social network so prepare yourself for change when that special someone enters your life. It would be a shame to lose someone you love over a wall post or direct message.

The Most Dangerous Black Man

2011-03-28T23:57:00.000-04:00

Heart Disease, Cancer, Homicide, HIV the highest culprits of death for black men, some of the things I have to worry about as a black man when I rise every morning. That's besides work, school, baby mothers, bills, rent, having money to be gas in my car you know regular shit. No stress its the everyday struggle and you make it happen, legally. But has it ever occured to you black man about the dangers of your skin. One day you could be a law-abiding citizen the next you are serving a life bid for a crime you didn't commit. Recently I was in the 7/11 across the street from my job getting my junk food fix and the attendant asked if I have a brother who works with me. Confused I ask him what he is talking about.

He says another guy comes in here from my job who looks like me we have the same type of beard. Outside I laughed and told him that we aren't related but inside I was fucking furious. Lets take a look at the myself and my "relative".

There are no distinct features between my co-worker except we both sport a "philly" beard. Thankfully I know neither of us would decide to pursue a life of crime but if one of us decided to rob 7/11 by our job the attendant would flip a coin and make a choice in the line up. Disease, NYPD, my peers have been some of my biggest fears but now I am scared of myself! People of Arab decent like the 7/11 attendant aren't welcomed with opened arms in America its a shame even though oppressed to a certain extent he refuses to rise against the stereotypes and ignorance. Unless I get my face tattoed like Gucci Mane every black man with a beard is my twin to America. I shouldn't have always been so oblivious to how ignorant the American people are. Rubin "Hurricane" Carter, Anthony Graves, Alan Newtown just a short list of black people wrongfully jailed. It saddens me because regardless of all the struggles and accomplishments achieved blacks will never be respected in this country it appears. Out of all the races in the our melting pot country black people come in most variations. Shades, facial structures, hairstyles etc. yet we are the most confused race. So I just want to tell my peers of African decent always walk with I.D. and have an alibi daily because you are your own worst enemy.

Blood Brothers? To White America we are

One of the greatest to ever do it...

2011-03-09T23:21:00.000-05:00

Christopher Wallace bka The Notorious Big was killed on March 9th 1997. An undisputed hip-hop legend with a state of the art delivery, uncanny wordplay along with a swagger as if he was the President of the United States. Today marks the 14th year since his death so to celebrate my boys @brooklynsky and @djbigreef present a Biggie mixtape for all the fans. Click here to download. Enjoy and always dream BIG.

Wanna hide something from a nigga?

2011-03-08T17:19:00.000-05:00

Put it in a book. - Jadakiss

Just started this book and I think you should pick it up also.

"Forty percent of the top 40 of the Forbes 400 richest Americans are Jewish"
"One -third of American multimillionaries are tallied as Jewish"
"The percentage of Jewish households with income greater than $50,000 is double that of non-Jews".

These are some interesting facts the book points out. The author who is clearly Jewish provides the foundation of steps of obtaining and maintaining wealth between individuals of any group or background. Let me know if you pick it up we can probably have a great conversation after we finish reading it.

Love and Hip-Hop...Reality show Hit or Miss?

2011-03-07T13:18:00.000-05:00

Love and Hip-hop on VH1, where should I start? My beef with reality tv is no secret, check out my piece from March 2010 "The Reality of Reality TV". But you can catch me tweeting about Jersey Shore regularly now being no blacks are being lynched on that show like Bad Girls Club, Basketball Wives etc. But just when we thought shit couldn't get any worse the VH1 gods came up with the idea of giving hip-hop "girlfriends" and fuck buddies a reality show.

If you didn't watch the preview do yourself a favor and keep it that way unless your kids watch World Star Hip-Hop more than Saturday morning cartoons. We have Jim Jones, who we all know is a coon who got out the hood with his 6 year fuck buddy, Chrissy. You can see she cares about him and is a very genuine down ass b*tch at the end of the day she is a bird. 10 minutes into the show she trying to start a fight at some stripper event. Asking Jim idiotic questions like were looking at the strippers? "Duh, Winning" (Charlie Sheen voice) Rappers attract the bottom of the food chain groupies, smart groupies fuck for cribs and hood groupies will fuck for a bag. Shit plenty will fuck just for letting them in VIP so Chrissy must not sleep much at night if she questions Jim's moves and motives when he is out being a rapper/business man/hustler. Stupidity and loneliness reached a new peak as she explained her "situationship" on the show but then Emily, Fabolous's "off the clock girlfriend" went into depth about her relationship with Fab. This girl is known to the world as his stylist but in her world she thinks of herself as his girlfriend. Fab literally had to perform inception by changing the title of baby mother to stylist and making the broad actually believe him. How dumb can you be? Fabolous must of forget he is an entertainer and its normal to have a life outside the studio. He has manipulated himself as well as Emily to a point where they think that he can't have a relationship because he is a rapper and it isn't best for his "image". Hip-hop culture again is being exploited to America in a negative fashion. Ladies should be outraged by this show because of the image this show paints of black women to America. These women are weak, lonely birds and now have a television show to cry about how "tough" their life is. No tough life is the single mother who can barely afford daycare, tough is using your last dollars to get formula for your baby as you go to bed hungry, tough is working two jobs just to pay rent and your student loans. So all these broads on the show can do this for me.

We all know the last thing America needs is another misinterpretation of hip-hop culture & African-Americans. You know I am right but rather than us taking a stand from the ignorance I am sure my timeline will be full of jokes about the show during its premier. The fire of ignorance needs fuel, so are you going to be a problem or a solution? You can fill your container with either gas or water you choose your role.

Product of my environment

2011-03-02T00:24:00.000-05:00

I am a product of my environment
Beef patties and cheese sunflower seeds with quarter waters
Single parent homes, mirrors show reflections of my dad yet I have no father
Would give the world to my moms yet I call my girl a bitch
Just ran a couple scams just to have money for some new kicks
Popped a few bottles even though my car note late
20 something yrs old yet my reading on the level of kids in the 4th grade
Who gives a fuck
Product of my environment
My hood is what made me
Only thing outside of that I know is Memorial Day in Miami
Bodegas, liquor stores churches on every corner
Even if I wanted change I couldn't vote for Obama
That 2 year bid took away all my civil rights
Now I'm stuck in my mom basement, on probabtion getting high
Just another product of my environment
Don't judge because this is how I live my life
Chicken wings well done
Extra duck sauce for the fried rice
But our Beef comes rare
1 thrust of my finger and your blood leaking everywhere
Yesterday you was the man
Now your baby moms shopping for tomb stones
These lil niggas now walking the street
With big guns have you clenching your butthole
Another day another memorial
Another product lost in its environment
Last raid got us hurting
Cops busted my supplier damn
Exhausted every crooked angle
So I tried to live life straight
But wifey needs Gucci
And that aint happening on minimum wage
So now I'm stuck
No way out of my environment
How can I live the American dream
When I'm looked upon as Americas nightmare
Pledge alliangance to what?
To a land where I live in fear
Big Brother, the police
Shit I'm afraid of my own peers
Because we all rats on the wheel
Chasing that same cheese
So we cut throats for corners
All while trying to stay incognito from the D's
But this is no secret
My environment is subject of the 5pm news
American emulates use as a burden
Yet some of us didn't even have a chance to choose
Just a product to what I know
Imagine if our school had new books, caring teachers
Something positive to give us hope
Money drugs and violence
My environment
All I know
To you its another statistic
But to me I call it home

For some reason I still have hope for us.

Random thoughts...

2011-02-23T16:32:00.003-05:00

Being a human you tend to be your own worse enemy. We have wants and desires when we get involved with an individual but these wants all come with fine print. Let’s take the bedroom for instance. Nothing beats a freak in the bedroom. Someone who makes your toes curl, kissing you at the right time, licking you the way you like and sucking you until the last drop. (Spitters are for quitters). But no matter how awesome that person may be if you find out how he/she got around town and smashed the homies/homegirls your feelings towards that individual will diminish and in many cases fade completely. Isn't it interesting that one would put their happiness aside just because of the image the hood has of that person, not because they don’t treat you like you want to be treated. Pride and emotions can lead one to a lonely future.

Love. The most intriguing emotion, no matter human or untamed beast love can be expressed through words or action. Men generally are more discreet about seeking love but we are in love with love as much as women. Love is probably the most dangerous thing on earth. We could go for days discussing weird crazy acts all done in the name of love. Love is probably the only emotion with the ability to scar an individual for life.

How many of you have met someone but they have a shield up because they fear being hurt? And this fear of loving someone else is instilled from a past relationship or situation. That situation or relationship could have ended 20 days or 20 years ago it could still influence their interactions while dating. I just find it crazy that humans pursue love from others yet we know the mental, physical and emotional risks it could bring. I guess the pros, the way love embraces the soul outweighs the cons.

No conclusion or purpose of this blog just some random thoughts I had the other night while I was trying to go to sleep. Just wanted to share and hear your thoughts and feelings about the aforementioned subject matter. Do we really want a freak in the bed? Practice makes perfect so a more experienced sexual person may rock your world but that talent is not natural there is a lot of trial and error. Would you turn a “hoe into a housewife” or do you prefer a caring boyfriend/girlfriend who is a lousy lover in the bedroom. Also wanted to discuss love, is it worth the risk? A person can get scarred so deeply by love that they may never love another person unconditionally like the one they lost. What is your experience with a broken heart? Does losing love affect future relationships? Let’s discuss.

She's alright but she's not real

2011-01-24T12:32:00.001-05:00

In 2011 saying the phrase "Keep it real" is as genuine as designer clothes from Canal Street. But I'm being an advocate to revamp this phrase, specifically for the ladies.

This is unacceptable and has to stop.

We are so caught up in the matrix that we can barely identify a real woman nowadays. Black woman in particular, being this is whom I can identify with easiest due to experience, are like Ms. Potato Head's. Images are burned so deep into our conscious that women feel the need to enhance their body and/or looks with artificial materials just to be a "bad bitch" now. We all know of the risks women take to alter their looks. A perm can literally burn your skin if its left in the hair too long, Kanye West lost his mother to complication in a plastic surgery operation. Is it worth all that? I feel like all the crap women put on or inject into their bodies to enhance their looks is a slap in your parents face. You are a direct mirror image of your parents DNA and when you alter your looks with man-made materials you are saying "Thanks for nothing Mom and Dad", I am an ugly duckling. In many major cities like my home New York women outnumber males. Its obvious that the pursuit for love is a struggle for you ladies. With our low numbers your choices are limited if you want a good man, not just any man. It's confusing now though with all these alternations, soon ladies will all look the same like this is I-Robot. A woman just needs to visit the Asians for some good weave, make a couple of trips to a plastic surgeon and go H.A.M. (thank you Kanye and Hov) in the MAC store to become America's Next Best CoCo (Ice-T wife). Do ladies think about who is going to get hurt more by altering your body? So yeah now you went from an A to a D cup or maybe you went from a checker board ass to a cup holder ass but what type of man will this attract? Now you have men left and right giving you their numbers and looking to take you out but what is their motivation???!! You only fooling yourself ladies with these enhancements thinking it will help you find a man that will love you. A man is not interested in YOU when he asks for number, you are just a substitute for the video vixen he lusts over, a sex symbol, a trophy. What happen to personality, a sense of humor or just being a hard worker? Personally I would prefer a successful, educated A cup female over a fake Coca-Cola bottle shape woman who bags groceries at C-town. No I am not saying just because you alter you body you are not/can not be successful but you are giving the wrong message to men before they even get a chance to see what you are about. Women would not like it if men started to stuff socks into their crotch and implying they have a huge package. How would you feel if we fooled you ladies like that? You take down the pants of a sock impostor and then if appears he has a mini pig in the blanket sitting on two tennis balls. As far as I know we do not have many solutions to fix our situation if we are not blessed but I don't see men walking around stressed because his cock hasn't grown since he was 13. So ladies in 2011 lets get back to basics, being yourself, being natural! Unless your aspiration is to become the best waitress to ever be employed at Hooters do not alter your body. Just because you are doing your best to emulate the bodies of celebrities like Beyonce and Melyssa Ford you will never be them or date/marry the caliber of men they deal with just because you have fake hair, ass and breasts like them. If you build your self-esteem on the inside you will give off a positive energy to attract men who are interested in your brain not just your T&A.

the little hoe that could

2011-01-13T11:22:00.004-05:00

The hoe is one of the biggest mysteries of the sexes. The amount of definitions is infinite and the members of the hoe community are probably in the millions. I think at one point of our life we all engage in some hoe activities but some live life as a hoe, which is unhealthy and degrading to your sex, especially women. For example we have men offering and/or eating the vag of every female they encounter. Also we have women who walk with toothpaste and panties in their purse with hopes to go home with a complete stranger during a night on the town. Some would look at the aforementioned activities is just someone who is just trying to "have fun" plenty of others would just say you are a hoe for engaging in these activities. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. Personally I can't explain or care to figure out the reasoning why a hoe is a hoe it is like trying to figure out if the glass is half empty or half full. What I would like to touch upon though is hoe reformation. I've met and encountered reformed hoes over the years and there is a mistaken belief about entering hoetirement. Hoes have it all backwards thinking they can just wake up one morning and decide to retire from their hoeism.

Have you ever been chilling with a known hoe and when you tried to make your move she hits you with excuses about why you can’t get the draws? You just heard about them sliding off with your man's cousin little brother's uncle/aunt after the club last week. If leaves a man/women upset, confused because they didn't know about the reformation until they tried to unzip their pants. If you want to stop being a hoe you need to understand it takes time, it is not an overnight process. In your head you decided you don't want to be an hoe anymore but you your lifestyle needs to take a 360 to complete transformation. Reformed hoes often don't even change how they move, who and where they hang out so that leaves the public confused about their hoe status.

Another great misconception hoes appear to have besides reforming overnight is that a status change does not nullify your hoes status. A hoe thinks just because you graduated college/ landed a dream job etc. you should be treated differently. If you were jumping off because someone used their meal points on you last week doesn't mean you deserve filet mignon today.

Over the years I have seen plenty of hoes also relapse back into their old ways. So my advice to all the confused hoes wandering the major cities of

America

is don't let people judge your choices in life. If you are happy with being a hoe don’t try to change because of your peer’s judge you. Look at Karrine Steffans, NY Times Best Seller List three times! Extreme example but seriously society is all about balance so don't try to force yourself out of hoeish ways maybe it’s not your time to become a housewife. Trust me there is someone out their for everyone so as long as you protect yourself, make wise hoe decisions you will find that right person to tame your hoeantics. There is plenty of truth behind the term turning a hoe into a housewife.

Out with the old, In with the 2011

2010-12-31T19:59:00.000-05:00

Another year is behind us, welcome 2011. We look at New Years as a fresh start to fix some bad shit they have been doing for years, like smoking, bad diets or being a hoe. Good luck with what ever you are giving up for 2011 but I'm being realistic you will probably fail because if you didn't stop the past 5 years you will not stop tomorrow. I am here today though to list some of the stupidest shit we witnessed, some actually been apart of for 2010 and we simply must leave it there.

Lace Fronts

Yeah we had out share of lace fronts from celebs and local hood rats. Before you open your mouth your appearance exemplifies what you think about yourself. Lace fronts are as cheap as $50 to a couple of hundred dollars, but we can agree that the majority of them looks bad, so if you couldn't keep a man in 2010 answer might be on your head not right in front of your nose.

Uggs

For those who know me my beef with Uggs is no secret. Personally I think the whole trend should die. No sense to continue the on going battle though women stand by these shoes faithfully, yet none of you surf. I will hold a cease fire on the Ugg lovers during the winter months but when Spring and Summer comes around again put them away ladies ~~and gentlemen~~. (Its a shame I have to ask men this now also). Trust me no one wants to hang out with anyone whose feet smell like Bin Laden's belly button.

Twitter Beef

If you have a twitter account or check the popular entertainment blogs you probably heard about the recent "twitter beef" between Raz B and Chris Brown. I mean this pic that Chris posted is classic and for smart individuals we know its just a marketing tactic for celebs to beef or express issues via their Twitter account. But the majority of the human race is dumb and I've seen peers of mine argue via Twitter. I know real thugs and they will handle beef saying less than 140 characters so I don't know what you are trying to prove. I expect the shit from birds but on more than one occasion I've seen men argue over twitter. Just so know that shit is #forthefaggots and you guys and birds need to leave it in 2010.

Fueling Ignorance

The best way to pissed someone off is ignoring them. No matter how pretty or ugly a person may be they can suffer from low self-esteem and go to extreme extents to achieve attention. So instead of falling into their trap lets promote, invest time into positive people, places and things. Besides the infamous Kat Stacks in 2010 a local slore bag decided to use Twitter as her outlet for her prostitution business. Plenty of men and women flock to her page daily. I expect that from niggas because they are dumb but ladies you are your own worst enemy. Why promote other filthy women because 1 bad apple spoils it for the batch and that includes respect for women. So ignore the ignorance and focus on you! I purposely never use that chicks twitter name because I rather spread love and knowledge, not fuckery.

Hooked on Phonics

My head hurts because this year my peers type on Facebook, Twitter, BBM, text like they drunk all the time. No one is perfect so a spelling error here and there is expected. Look at the above error it is suppose to be "catered" how did you mistake O for E its five letters apart on a QWERTY keyboard!! This is a BBM blast from a friend of mine so I guess he already drunk for New Years but some of you are repeat and constant offenders, it makes me think some of you don't even have a GED. So if you know spelling isn't your thing utilize the spell check on your phone or holla at me I will get you a English version Rosetta Stone.

Purple Messages must stop!!!

I've had a blackberry for about 4 years now and BBM is the greatest invention since affirmative action. With a Sidekick a man was limited to "G" 10 chicks at a time with AIM now its limitless with BBM. It is also a fast networking tool to handle business and interact with friends. Like I said earlier the majority of the human race is dumb so why would you blast messages from the CEO of RIM, is that your man, does he come over for Thanksgiving dinner?? I have no teens on my BBM list so why are you sending chain letters and you are over 18 years of age!! I've ignored all you coons and I still haven't received 7 years of bad luck, I've had great sex since then and I'm still alive. So grow up and chill with the chain letters!!

Mayor Doomberg

For all my NYC readers you know to wear an extra pair of socks this New Years Eve. The plows just reached my block today, only took 5 days, Thanks Doomberg! I know some folks whose streets still look like this.

What the fuck we paying taxes for? Oh shoutout to the recent MTA fare hike. I said it on twitter the other day we need to organize and hit the streets because if you waiting for Obama for change you in for a rude awakening.

Last but not Least

All these terms need to die...

Swag

Kanye Shrug

On deck

Zoo, Zoonami

If you don't like or agree with my leave it in 2010 choices...

Oh yeah Happy New Year!

The TRUTH About Christmas

2010-12-23T11:28:00.000-05:00

For all my last minute shoppers...

Shoutout to my bro @feltonamus

Circle of Hate

2010-10-15T01:13:00.005-04:00

History has always showed us how being "different" can cause pain and death. Just look at the Europeans, whose barbaric ways killed off the ~~Indians~~, oops I mean Native Americans, thank you Columbus for the wrong terminology. Another example, is the African Slave trade which led to the present and ongoing feud between the black and white races. Throughout American history there has been several movements and reform for different minority groups to ensure we can achieve the American Dream equally. In more recent times a focal point of society has been the LGBT community. I have to give it up to those apart of that community, they have been through various struggles and have achieved great strives in such a short period of time but does the victim card help or hurt minorities groups? As a black man I personally know how the victim card can instill hatred instead of empathy into others. Since my youth, I have seen plenty of individuals flourish into their sexuality, men losing their bass in their voice, women trading in push up bras for sports bras and fitteds, etc. For the most part it is pushed into our lives via the media, the news and TV shows, Will and Grace, Real World, the LOGO network are a few examples but the list goes on. The community also began to take strives by getting laws passed to eliminate discrimination and some states have allowed same sex marriages. There has been many accomplishments but just like most civil rights movements in this country they have a long way to go. It use to appear weird seeing a same sex couple walking the street holding hands, at one point they were afraid to even do so but times have changed greatly. It has yet to be proven but those from the LGBT community say they are born that way and there is still a great wall of courage one has to leap to be open about their sexuality.

Recently at Rutgers University student Tyler Clementi committed suicide after being secretly taped kissing a man. His fellow peers who wanted to play prank on their roommate but from the vast media sources who have covered this, I’ve read they did not know about his sexual orientation so the footage recorded was a surprise even to them. Personally, I wouldn't have went through with it once I saw he was gay, given America’s rep for so openly embracing the LGBT community, I knew it wouldn't be pretty if made public. To recap, they post the video, the kid is so embarrassed he decides to take his own life. Prank gone wrong. But now the term "bias" and "hate crime" are placed into the mix from the media outlets. They are investigating if the two students involved Clementi’s roommate Dharun Ravi and his friend Molly Wet are anti-gay individuals so they can prosecute them harder, but why? Few things you should ask yourself after reading the garbage the news outlets post:

1. Would they have posted the video regardless of the action during his time alone in the room?
No matter the content of the video they would have followed through with the prank, Clementi could have been dancing covered in peanut butter; the video was going to hit the web regardless. Would it still be a hate crime?

2. Has any other factors been put into the mix of why he committed suicide?
This isn’t the first time a college student killed himself. College life is stressful and then you add 15 credits, a part maybe even full time job - the video could have just been the straw that broke the camel’s back.There could be plenty of outside reasons why he had to hide his sexuality and therefore adding to his stress levels: general acceptance, family and friends. So America feels the best solution is destroying two more lives? What will be accomplished long term from this?

At one point in American history we use to slander those from the LGBT community for being different. Now the media embraces them so if you talk bad about them, first amendment deez nuts. Better not get in an altercation, intentional or not with a homosexual it’s now a hate crime. Disagreements is apart of life, some minuscule and non violent like between two boys in a schoolyard, while others can be long and deadly like the War in Iraq. Its easy to draw the conclusion that people do disagree on a wide array of reasons. So why do we label things as hate/bias crimes and prosecute harder just because a person was of another race, sexual orientation religion etc. even if that didn’t initiate the altercation. Situations like this suicide at Rutgers only increase friction and drives separation between humans because of the way it has been labeled and handled. Race, religion and sexual orientation are factors that only separate our culture, beliefs or who we sleep with at night but we are all still human, breathe the same air, bleed the same blood. I may not personally agree with Clementi’s lifestyle but I respect life. I refuse to fall into the traps America plants to keep us more and more apart. America discriminates, judges, persecutes, prosecutes and jails people unlawfully, thank you Patriot Act, but they are ready to destroy two more lives in a country where Clementi sexuality is not respected nationally in the law books. Look at all the back and forth our country has had over the years just for homosexuals who want to serve in the armed services. Shouldn't our country take responsibility for Clementi feeling out of place?

Society burns bridges before they are even built. Why do you think racism is still alive, why you watch the every movement of an Arab who boards the train, or your skin crawls when an openly gay man crosses you on the street?. Our ~~great~~ land which accommodated racism with Jim Crow laws later overturned it telling Americans don't be racist anymore. Homosexuals use to have to hide their sexuality until America unlocked the door to the "closet.” Now, all those gay bashers must have open arms and respect Adam and Steve holding hands because America said so. We can not become united under these conditions. Animosity is only present between different races, religions, creeds etc. Do you think the families of these Rutgers students who are being prosecuted will ever attend a gay rally? They will now have hatred in their hearts toward the gay community because the media has promoted their children as gay bashers. Stupid and immature, yes, they invaded privacy and exposed Clementi but is that enough to make an interesting headline? Bully, hate, bias are the words used to describe this crime, this is how we are dug deeper into the hole of hate. Any tweets, Facebook statues from the suspects Dharum Ravi and Molly Wei can now be twisted in the court room to turn them into gay bashers. If they were not bias towards homosexuals prior to this incident, trust me they will be if they throw the book at them. This hate has a domino affect onto their families, friends and the ignorant gay bashers of America. I recently saw www.godhatesfags.com via Twitter. We have bigger fish to fry compared to these two students. The masterminds behind sites like these probably have a lot to say regarding Clementi.

Hopefully Ravi and Wei are punished properly for the crimes they have committed and not turned into puppets of hate for America's liking. I am writing because I want you to take this tragedy as a time to reflect. Are you a puppet of hate? You may have built up prejudices against a group or class of people because the only time you see them is in a negative aspect. Embrace, interact and learn about what you don't understand. If you only get your information from Big Brother stop because he only cares about himself, he is stronger with us separated as compared to us actually being the United States of America. I leave you with a bar from Nas from "Hate Me Now,” it helped me look at myself and our nation in a new light, if you are or someone you know hold a grudge against others hopefully you can see the light also. Kill hate, not humans.

"Niggas fear what they don't understand, hate what they can't conquer, guess it's just the theory on man"

The Green Eyed Monster

2010-09-13T23:05:00.003-04:00

I don't understand you
Yet I proclaim my love for you
Barely even had you
But I'm always chasing you
The little time we have
Brief sweet pleasures like a one night stand
I doubt I can ever get enough of you
Because with you anything is possible
I love you so much
But I will lend you to friends
I don't care family or not
If you are not returned
That relationship will end
You dress me up nice
Wrist covered in ice
Tinted windows, seat back, bad bitch to my right
She is #2 because you are the most beautiful
I love you money
No denying what I would do for you
Because you make me the man I am
Whether I want the latest edition text book
Or the retro Jordan released last week
Its a shame I'm a slave to you
Good pussy doesn't even make me this weak
No no Fuck you money
You try to fool me with all your shape
The curves of my credit card
Or the smooth loan documents for a luxury V
Because they don't teach me
About the monster and I'm not talking HIV
Interest comes along
Killing my FICO

slowly
I'm suppose to attend universities
To pursue careers barely a jump from minimum wage
Now I'm dodging calls from your friends Sallie and Frannie
But I learned you tricks
I'm telling all about your ways
I refuse to be your slave
Fuck you money

Five Areas of Investment in a Relationship: Part One

2010-09-13T22:54:00.008-04:00

Check out this piece from my homey Mister B. He has a lot of positive and deep blogs you should check out on http://lifelivewell.com/. Here is part one of a series he started where he discusses the elements needed to have a fulfilling and rich relationship with your partner.

When I told people I was writing this blog post a lot of interest was received on this topic. Many have voiced to me that it is really hard to choose if they should take the next step with people they are dating. There are people who date and date with no idea if this is someone they want to develop a relationship with. Then there are those who invest in relationships without doing their due diligence in getting to know their partner. A lot of people neglect certain factors that they dislike about a person, but many times choose to overlook these things in search of love and companionship. Not fully getting to know one another individually always leads to premature relationships and marriages which cause more damage to your well-being than good.

In this post I attempt to give a reference point or guide of measurement for those before they enter in the investment of a long-term relationship or potential marriage. The science of love is a mystery and cannot always be explained, but there shouldn’t be any confusion with love or like. You can’t make key life decisions off the basis of pure emotion alone. First things first, before you enter into any relationship you should have a sufficient love of self. I will go into detail more about love of self in a future blog, but just know you cannot properly invest in a long-term relationship or marriage without it.

So now I will speak about the 5 domains of self-wellness that long-term relationships and marriages directly affect. The first domain I will speak about is in the area of Spirituality. A quote I love to cite is ‎”Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”-Aristotle. I love this because people do not realize that when you consummate a relationship you and another person are co-creating another soul. This is the soul of love or the lack therefore of. You cannot create love if the soul of one of the individuals’ soul is empty on this matter. Someone who truly loves another human being will show love with impeccable word. Words of kindness, appreciation, and joy will feed the spirit of both individuals the majority of the time. Fewer times of conflict and stress is what is needed to maintain spiritual wellness. Words of affirmation feed the mind, body, and soul, while words of anger and hostility damage the mind, body, and soul. So for a lasting love this area of your relationship must be healthy.

The next domain I will look at is the area of Mental Wellness. Sometimes mentally scarring in a bad relationship can permanently damage individuals for a lifetime dealing with the opposite sex. Some people are mentally fragile in this world and bad relationships can lead to a downfall of mental health such as illness, addiction, and self-abuse. For those who it doesn’t affect as deeply unhealthy relationships affecting your mental may surface in the form of self-rejection. This state of mind affects the self-esteem and confidence of an individual invested in an unhealthy relationship. The underestimation of self in situations become commonplace mentally for many during this time. This can transfer not just in your relationship, but in all facets of life. Also, during an unhealthy relationship other core elements of mental wellness maybe affected like lack of good nutrition, exercise, lack of sleep, and increased stress. Also a change in attitude will be noted as well by loved ones. If your optimistic attitude on life is stilted it maybe time to pull out of your investment in this relationship or marriage.

My third domain I will address is in the area of Emotional Wellness. This area is a sibling of Mental Wellness as they are intertwined. Women are generally affected more than men emotionally in a bad relationship. Before you invest emotionally in a relationship there must be mutual commitment, trust, and respect. For a lasting love their must constant reflection on how you two treat one another. Couples that are open to change and respond to each other’s emotional needs last longer than who are not as adaptable to change. Also, a base of unconditional love and respect must be developing between a couple. Generally women’s emotions respond best to unconditional love by her man. Just as man who lacks a woman’s nurturing loving nature responds best to unconditional respect from his lady. Having a healthy relationship with your mate will help you keep your emotions more positive and optimistic. Other relationships will benefit and your love of self will be higher. Therefore, keeping your emotional and mental state stable and positive is always best.

I hope you enjoy this blog post and feel free to comment or email me at misterb@executivelifestylegroup.com if you have any questions.

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Cunnilingus, healthy to a mans diet?

2010-08-26T17:24:00.014-04:00

Fronting is a part of dating no matter what your age, sexual orientation, etc is. In pursuit of impressing an individual long or short term we usually have some sort of front; a disguise of ourselves. As men we deal with plenty of fronts; weaves, makeup, ass implants etc. Men have their fair share of fronts also but there is one front some men will take their grave: admitting to eating pussy.

There are many unspoken rules of the black man, things I never discussed with my homeboys but we all agree on without question. Such as keeping firm eye contact in a locker room, wandering eyes are subject to plenty of violence. Rarely a convo can go by with one of your homeboys without pussy being the topic at one point; its like George Bush caring about black people, it’s that rare. But rules were made to be broken and I think it time for us, black fellas, to admit that we eat pussy. This is more of a regional analysis because anytime I’m out of town and hear a southern dude attempt to bag a lady he just says what he would do to her and majority of the time it included some variation of her sitting on his face. I don't know if it just because their swag is harder to find than Kat Stacks walls or they really like doing it but southern dudes proudly announce they give head.

Enough about the South let's get back on track. This is a very sensitive topic, friends, pussy eating is something a black man may only discuss with his immediate circle. A black man would most likely embarrass his homeboy for owing him $20 instead of blasting him about that cross-eyed chick he went down on after the club last week (blame it on the goose). But what are we ashamed of, my brothers? Spanish dudes have no shame in their game; they gladly broadcast their love to go down on a woman. ~~I won't go into the first time I actually performed the act myself,~~ I mean, I didn't know any better at the time. I was just doing stuff I saw on my porn vhs's (damn, I feel old saying that), but over the years as I matured, I now know the benefit of skillfully using my tongue in the bedroom. Any male peer of mine I ever engaged in a conversation on sex never frowned upon getting head. Some prefer vaginal sex to reach orgasm but I guess they never encountered a lady whose jaws work magic. The sexuality of our black counterparts are higher than ever. Black women are quick to talk shit about us men but I never hear about black men complaining about not receiving sloppy, wet, toe curling sex from them. They are doing their part religiously. Kudos, to the ladies because they have no shame in their game, I can not remember the last time I heard a dude say he got hit with the "I don't give head" line. So now at twenty-something going on thirty black men are still going to play dumb when it comes to giving "special attention" to the ladies? Truthfully. some of you brothers need to step your head game up because there are still too many ladies still complaining in 2010 about the lack of motion in their oceans. Next time "My Neck, My Back" comes on in the club, you better make your way to the dance floor and dance with a female with pride because the fronting has to stop.

Lets jump back to the middle of this blog for a little bit, the part about Southern men proudly announcing their love dive head first into the ebony nest. There is no reason that pum pum munching brothers advertise their fetish to the masses. Unfortunately in 2010 the social networks have moved from your networking needs to free dating services. So some have found this as an outlet to write updates like this:

RT @TheKillaStory: I kno I eat pussy idc!

RT @WOWkoww:I only eat pussy on weekdays.

RT @mr_Ritefornow:eat pussy or die

RT @Feed_Me_Pussy:LADIES, WE NEED 2 VOLUNTEERS 4 A PUSSYEATN CONTEST. LMAO! RT @PleasureBoii: @Feed_Me_Pussy I just wanted to say I eat it better loll

What did you fellas do before Facebook, Twitter etc? You did not walk around with “I Eat Vag” tatted on your arm. There is no reason to try to use it as an advantage on the gentlemen with decency. I don’t understand how woman are attracted to you overzealous munchers anyway because plenty of people don’t practice have good hygiene methods. So why would you go around putting a bunch of random pussies in your mouth?

It just a dirty move on your part if you still use the “If I eat it I’ll beat it" swindle as an adult. If you don’t have any personality or “swag” (I hate that word) best if you move down south. But enough on you guys lets get back to the topic at hand.

As a man you may be sitting here thinking your game is tight and you attract women without eating the box but trust me there are plenty of brothers, as aforementioned out there eating the box like its going out of style. There will be a night when your girl tells you she is hitting the club with her peoples when she actually may be riding the face of one of these brothers. Lady friends have told me and proven via text messages/emails about dudes who are willing to perform fellatio on them with no strings attached, sometimes they even fall for the Eat and Beat swindle. So get down or get left playa!

A vow to my friends...

2010-07-26T23:32:00.004-04:00

On July 14th 2010 I lost my good friend Stephen "Scrooge" Botas. Not the 1st time I lost a friend but this really hit me hard because he was still so young and just a great down to earth person. No I am not wishing death on all the evil people out there but situations like this make you cherish your life even more, every morning when we rise. Many mornings that we actually take for granted. But this is just a little something I wrote on the steps of some random church on 5th ave when I received news of his passing...

One day I will be no more
No surprise with life comes death
No regrets
Living life to the fullest
Some would say I'm young
but I've seen enough
Family and friends in abundance
Some present, some I've lost
I can't ask for much
Selfish never
my love is available at the drop of a dime
But have I taken the time
To announce this love or did I wait until the flat line?
Better late than never
They say
But I prefer sharing sweet memories before your eulogy
If you are reading this its because I care and this is my vow to you
No matter the hour, no matter the place just know
My heart is with you
Call me
curse me
cry with me
Any longitude and latitude
Just not when I'm 6 feet deep
I refuse to lose you
Without letting it be known
I appreciate you in my life and I cherish you

WorldStarShottaBlogger.com

2010-07-13T21:35:00.003-04:00

Don't you hate when it appears a week is moving slower than the U.S. government giving Black people reparations? I had one of those weeks this past month. I will never forget the week of June 13, 2010; my great-grandmother birthday was that week, hitting 88 years strong. It was also a moment of history in hip-hop history with Drake dropping his first major label album. I guess, in an effort to build on the Sear’s Tower buzz around his album, Drake is added to a free concert at the South Street Seaport in NYC the same day it dropped on June 15th. Plenty of you reading this already know what occurred on that day and have seen me on the ~~infamous~~ WorldStarhiphop.com or local news channel and are probably wondering why the Shotta Blogger was in a shoving match with the police. Well, when I first heard about the concert I thought:

Free + Niggas = Comedy

So of course I felt I should attend., I love to observe niggadom;, live and ~~in color~~ (no pun). So, I get off the train and fight through every Rugby rocking, Uggs rocking teenager in New York City it appears. I’m thinking the NYPD which isn’t that dumb, would have had some sort of structure and manpower for a free concert with Drake, especially given his popularity. But I assumed wrong because I saw more Ciroc and Goose bottles than police or security at the Seaport. I watched people, the majority being our youth, climb and stand on awnings, smoke blunts like Virginia Slims and even sell Nutcrackers out of their baby carriage. I bet if I walked around I would have probably found someone selling loose'sies of Newport and dime bags. I mean, I am not perfect but just from observation most of the kids in attendance needed to go on Maury and have that drill sergeant scream some sense into them. By now plenty of you seen footage from the event and trust me it was 10 times worse live. Being I have such great luck, I happen to be in the same area where the young lady was throwing chairs off the balcony. So, of course New York’s “Finest” makes their way to the area where the the fiasco is taking place. Most of the guilty parties depart into the massive crowd, so now it’s only my friend Daryl and me with a couple police officers. I don't know if it’s my beard or my gut but NYPD have been showing me a lot of "love" the whole summer. So, lady officer approaches and says to vacate the premises and before I could even answer she puts her hands on me. I mean, since I was in kindergarten I was told not to put my hands on someone else. As far as I know police can not touch me without probable cause, and I think every Black man qualifies to be a criminal lawyer; its in our DNA, we know the law. So after she pushes me, I ask her for her badge number and , this I guess this scares her. This situation was a free pass to “When keeping it real goes wrong” © Dave Chapelle, which would of have lead to my arrest. Some of her fellow officers join in the shoving match while I try to compile the multiple badge numbers in my head. The more I asked for their badge numbers the more they pushed me. I guess, the stereotype of doughnuts is true with cops because even with 4 officers, they could barely get me down the stairs so eventually they pulled out the cuffs and then I became Casper. Now, at the bottom of the stairs, blood boiling as hot as the Devil's belly button I waited a few minutes. I was waiting for the officers to come down from the 2nd level where the altercation occurred. I grew impatient after a few minutes so I went back up the stairs of doom in hopes to get a view of the pigs who assaulted me to record their badge numbers. Before I could reach the top another office told me I couldn't come up here and as I tried to plea that I only wanted a badge number and I would vacate right after that but it was like talking to Helen Keller. Again, with force I was sent down the stairs. At the bottom of the stairs I sought assistance from the other officers but they all answered with "I don't know" and Kanye shrug's. It was at this moment I realized what a the gang our NYPD really is.

How could they refuse me assistance just because there it was an issue with one of their fellow officers?

Why was I seen as a threat instead of reprimanding individuals who caused the actual ruckus?

Where are your the priorities, NY's finest?

So a few weeks ago I filed a complaint with the information I was able to gather during the whole scuffle with the city. The investigators made sure to tell me out of all the complaints filed, only 10% are actually found in favor ofn the civilian. I have a better chance of having protected sex with an AIDS patient compared to having a NYPD officer disciplined for touching and pushing me unlawfully. We will see how this all plays out...

“There is a war going on outside, no man is safe from”

It’s already a hassle to walk the streets of NY because a fool may want to pull out a gun for scuffing his sneakers, but those employed “To Protect and Serve” are more concerned with themselves compared to civilians. I would like to dedicate this blog to the families of Sean Bell, Amadou Diallo, Oscar Grant and all black men across the country assaulted or murdered unlawfully by law enforcement. If a riot started in the names of the aforementioned victims against police brutality I would gladly make the news for standing up against these pigs.

Fathers Day in the hood

2010-06-20T13:02:00.007-04:00

The black father has been spotted with the weapons of mass destruction in Iraq. Hopefully you can have more luck finding them compared to George Bush. Father's Day is usually just another day for millions of other people across the nation but my childhood was blessed with a loving Uncle and Grandfather and in more recent years I have been associated with friends who are actual FATHER'S and not daddies. Their efforts give me that stroke of courage that we as a people are doing better. I let them know also how I am proud of them, I feel our black fathers need that encouragement because it is so easy for them to stray and it’s expected in this society. Black fathers in the hood are usually a welfare or child support check so please on this Father's Day a simple text, hug anything to that man who is involved with your child's life. Ok Ok its Father's day, a day for men so none of that mushy shit anymore lets get down to business. My friend Q Double over at http://www.incredulouscribes.com went around this week and asked his friends a simple question:

What does it mean to be a father? Give your realest answer, experiences whatever. Even if he wasn't around or you are just a bird who collects a check. Even if you not a pops, yall know what I mean.

Well not that simple because it is such a touchy subject in the hood but Q Double has put together a collage of answers from his friends and colleagues. Some funny, some sad, some different and plenty you can relate to. For more by Q Double check him out on http://www.incredulouscribes.com

I got an email the other day from a fan of the site. My first thought: "DAMN we got a fan, hope it ain't the po-lease." Upon skimming through the "shit," "muhfucka," "that bitch ain't shit," "fuck-a-cuddle," and "yo wassup with Snugg she single," this person asked what are my thoughts about “Fahvazs Day.”

Now I can say that this day is overlooked because the big companies are run by momma’s boys who don’t even know how to be fathers themselves.
-OR-

There’s plenty of real fathers out there. They just get the “F-ck You” treatment because the courts are used to helping the female instead of the male (FUCK CHILD SUPPORT!!!!).

But why just have that, when I can have the thoughts from fellow readers. Share their feelings and experiences, and have it all coming together to create the realest, and truest, Fahvaz Day from peoples who live it and go through it every day.

Cause here at I.S., we don't just write the plain ass facts, if we did than we'll be just some respectable negroes.

Prepare to laugh, cry, doze off, nod in agreement, yell, smack your daddy because he did that to you, hug your daddy because he did that to you, reminisce, or just smile for the next couple of minutes.

And remember to wish the REAL FATHERS a Happy Fahvaz Day.

Definition of a Father:

"A man that is there to guide you from not making a mistake and point you in the right direction. Hold you down no matter what and love you unconditionally." -Gypsy

"In its simplest definition, I'd say a sperm donor. As in: 'In the case of Quantanesha... You ARE the father.'" – Snugg McNugg

"Guidance and support. I damn sure ain't no pappy. Maury cleared me already." -B. Tate

-Scribes Note: FUCK MAURY and the all the ignorant people who want to be on the show.

"Being a dad is patience, sacrifice, and fearlessness: Patience is plainly what it sounds like.....and lots and lots of it." -Q. Busy

"A father is supposed to be a leader, an advisor, a teacher, a counselor, and your number one fan. My dad and I weren't close when I was younger. It wasn't till recently when we almost had a brawl that we realized how much a like we were. I had to tell him how much I needed his support not just financially but emotionally. Now he is always there to listen and his advice is the greatest. I am grateful to have him cause three years ago he might not have been here." -J. Moore

"Guidance and he is supposed to show u how to be a man…well for a son that is. I don't want fathers raising women to be dikes." -Shotta Dru

You wasn’t there, didn’t make me no never mind:

"Honestly, my uncle was a true dad to me: picking me up from school, spoiling me, disciplining me, and all that. He supports my mother, his sister, through everything. A real father is there through the good, the bad, the ugly, and in between. You can honestly feel their love and understand it. Guidance, Love, and Support. You may not see it but you know they got you no matter what.” –Chrissy

"My godfather is my father. He is hip and cool and we have the same b-day. I forgave my father for being a jerk." -Gypsy

"My father was barely there when I was growing up. Enough said. Not like he is helping me now or when I was younger. Still turned out to be a fine young man without him. So fuck him." –Q. Holliday

"But there is mad shit I had to learn from observation. Even how I deal with chicks, I learned on my own. Cause all my mom could teach me was ‘use condoms’ and ‘I ain’t raising no grandkids. My grandfather was my father. That’s why I never got over his death.” –Shotta Dru

I beat my kid’s ass. SO WHAT!!!! They my kids:

"I don't think experience is all that counts cuz u have young dads like myself. I think it's whether or not you choose to make the sacrifices necessary to see your children grow to be better off in life. I will say I'm a father and hope my daughter is raised with the right morals instilled in her to make her a better and stronger "woman." So for now, I'm Dad because I will make mistakes, but it takes a father to understand. Ya dig!!!" -D. DeLeon

"As a father, nothing makes you happier that watching your kids laugh, but many choose to live for themselves and never experience that." –G.

“Sacrifice: Meaning, sometimes--most of the time--giving up the material things (and time to do them) to ensure that they have the finest things that my wife and I can provide for them. If that means that I’m going to continue wearing these tired ass jeans and polo sneakers a lil’ while longer so that they can look correct, so be it.” –Q. Busy

Baby Mommas, Daddies, & Deadbeats:

"Me personally, I never understood the deadbeat dad shit, I LOVE watching my kids!!! They are comedy in motion." -W. Jasper

"Fuck that father shit. Can't bust in these bitches these days. They looking' for a come up to trap a nigga. So I'm just going to stack this bread and fuck these hoes. Til' the day I'm a father, that's all I'm 'bout." –L. Smith

“This might offend some people, but fuck it. There are some trifling ass women out here who can't fathom what a good man and father is. So they cut him loose and do what's easy: Get that man for motherfuckin' child support. These bitches thinking their winning too." –T. Lewis

"I refuse to be a baby's daddy. Who invented that shit?"
-Scribes Note: Women did. It has been documented and recorded throughout the 70s til now. Now that phrase is the norm now. If you think I’m lying, then you must be one of those women.

“I think child support is misused by the courts and SOME of the people that receive it. You have conniving women who feel that a child support check is a real check and choose not to work. So they start to spend the child’s money for their own needs and wants. On the same token, there are daddies out there who use that child support check as the excuse for raising their child. All-in-all: Those checks are fucking up the parental system in some way, using it as a means for raising kids. It needs to be re-worked and fixed in a way where it’s not being misused and the REAL parents don’t have to pay out, not even know if the child is receiving it. *fin*” –Q Double

Speaking about baby daddies, somebody has something to say…:

"It means a lot to be a father, doesn't mean shit to be a daddy though. I hate the term 'baby daddy,' that's not me. Daddy is one who is around, a father is the one who brings you up and teaches you right from wrong. The one who educates, not buys his kid a pair of Jordan’s every once in a while or a new PS3 game...I'm my child’s father and not a bitches 'baby daddy.' I don't know too many people who do what I do, and that's to be a single father. Shit is the toughest task I have ever taken on. It's important for a child to have both parents. It's hard for a man to try to care and show that soft side like a woman does for a child. Fathers show love, fathers deserve a Fathers Day, cuz I know I do. I had a FATHER growin' up, no DADDY, and I will make sure mine has the same. Niggas don't understand they "emotionally fuck" up their children from the get, trying be a baby daddy. It's sad to say, but I have seen it with both of my nieces, they just had daddies. Shit is lame." -C. Wright

"I wanted to walk just like you/ wanted to talk just like you"
-Jay-Z "Soon You'll Understand:"

"A real father knows that his kids are looking at everything their doing. From how you put your socks on to the way you drink. It’s all recorded." -The Homeboy Southside Queens.

"My lil' boy was sitting on the couch watching cartoons, right. I'm just looking at him through the corner of my eye. Just looking. Then he turns and says 'you got a problem Dad, I'm trying watch my shows.' Yeah, I knew was a father at that moment." -D. Harrington

"Picture a kid's world. They're either happy (laughing) or sad (crying). Link that to a parent. Parents ALWAYS know how their kids are feeling." –G.

“Fearlessness, because an effective ever-present father is the #1 man/male in his children's lives. He should be a symbol of righteousness and manhood, standing for what he feels is right at all times. Fearlessness: also meaning never being AFRAID to enforce his unpopular rule and be an adequate guardian and role model, rather than being the child's friend.” –Q. Busy

"Black children, just children in general, need fathers not daddies, ya dig! So shout out to all the real fathers, and off with this 'baby daddy' shit. We need to start a new trend: be a father, feel me, and fuck a 'baby daddy.' Middle fingers up to them niggas and a BIG PAT on the back to niggas like me...FATHERS!” –C. Wright

Shotta Sidenote:

My friend Lonnie sent ~~another cliche~~ BBM blast about Father's Day. I joked and called him Oprah but this shit needs to be on a billboard somewhere. Love the promotion of positivity. Here goes the random rant from my friend Lonnie/@inkrediblenyc

Random thoughts/rants:

A Father can never replace a Mother. A Mother can never replace a Father. We should all be able to appreciate one without having to bring down the other.

Applaud and uplift the ones who do it alone without stepping on the backs of those that are absent to raise them up.

To those that haven't become parents yet, be aware of the face that EVERYONE you lay down with could very well be the mother/father of your child, and the onus is on both of you to do the best job you can.

Choose your parents wisely and lose the negativity.

Happy Father's Day
-L

untitled.

2010-05-26T11:50:00.003-04:00

Sleepless nights

Non productive mornings

All surrounded by thoughts of you

Twenty some off years lost

Not realizing my path ended with you

Any moment apart seems like a dent in my soul

Every time you say I love you

comforting like a blanket to a homeless man in the cold

Never thought it would come

No longer my girl

vows now made you my wife

The fuel to my fire

If I'm wrong you set me right

Back to a wall in a dark alley

You are my light

Only path I follow is the one to your heart

But right now I'm watching the game

Move from in front the TV and HUSH YOUR MOUTH

No Longer a Mystery

2010-05-26T11:45:00.002-04:00

Men do not understand women and women do not understand men. No matter how many books you read, how many magazine surveys you take or gossip you gather in the barbershop or salon, the complexity of the two species can’t be solved. Only thing we can do is obtain knowledge from our OWN experiences, learn from our mistakes and live a positive life toward our goals and dreams. It doesn't hurt getting a ~~nut or two~~ while we bumble along on this bumpy road towards success. I mean, conference calls, overtime at the office and train delays deserve some sort of award, I believe. The bedroom is one of the most mystical and mysterious situations where the battle of the sexes collide. Over the years old partners and female friends have been searching for an answer on one subject about us males, not for their benefit but to help them help us. "What makes pussy good?" No, this is not the same as my previous post "You Don't Really Have Good Pussy.” I touched upon a lot of the external factors, which brought "value" to the sweetness between a ladies legs. But many want to understand the physical portion, why after just a few strokes your lover has rolled over and is now sucking his thumb while you’re laying there more upset than white people during the OJ verdict.

Basically ladies, pussy is pussy. Physically, just like men, the actual vag has different attributes. Some clits are big, some are small, some ladies walk around always moist, for some it takes a little more influence to get the juices flowing but to men, its all the same shit. A man can make anything "feel" good if he puts his mind to it. If you blindfold a Nazi and have him sleep with an African woman I bet he will get a nut. Just like women, a huge percentage of our orgasm derives from our mental. Just think of masturbation for men compared to women, the arrays of devices women can choose from compared to a man, all we need is a little lotion and a magazine to make our magic happen. So what makes your pussy different from your home girl and how do you determine whose is better? Ladies, have failed to realize our similarities and how emotion, affection and feelings play a factor for a man in the bedroom. We have seen great comedians such as Eddie Murphy do stand up about cheating and recite this famous line "I just fuck those other girls, but I make love to you." Regardless, how funny and ridiculous that sounds, it’s true! You may think back now at "fuck buddy" situations, 12pm or 12am no matter the hour he wanted you but he just wanted your body, not YOU as a person. That doesn't mean the actual vag was good but a man loves no attachment, requirements pussy. You might not be able to ride it like his main chick but to him variation is better. How do you think the term "Ain't no pussy better than new pussy" was derived? The feeling of new pussy is like that first bike ride without training wheels. You broke another barrier in life and during that ride down your block you are on top of the world or on top of someone’s daughter.

So folks there it is, Pussy is pussy. There’s little you ladies can do to alter your vag to make it more enjoyable (this does not mean don't shave or do your kegals) same way a man cannot alter his penis size. Many have confused a man lusting after your pussy as good pussy and that is not the case. The determining factor is the man feelings toward you. Domestic abilities along with things like road head, sex in spontaneous places, hand jobs on the dollar van etc. are ways to bring up your pussy value. A fuck buddy and a girlfriend are also BIG factors. A man lusts for pussy once he hits puberty but you want a man to love YOU. The benefits will be displayed when he enters your love nest. Remember your feelings may be on a different level from your partner and you might do things to please him, such as give him your body. Just because he hits it right don’t assume it’s because you have good pussy. A physical connection holds no weight on a mental connection. Compare encounters you had with someone you actually got to know compared to situations where it jumped right into the physical. New pussy is priority but free (no work required) pussy is rarely passed up. So do not equate a man running you down to get in your draws again as your vag being good. You are just more convenient than the girl he bagged at the club last night, might take a date or two before they are playing "Just the tip,” then he will be #ontothenextone. Hopefully, ladies the gap between men and women has been bridged somewhat after reading this. Just remember it’s highly unlikely you can alter the feeling, wetness, looseness of your vag but if you learn to mentally fuck a man first before getting in the bed your pussy is good.

Unlike my other blogs the ideas and content had a great contribution from my two homeboys. Catch more of their mental on twitter @GreedyVegan and @LilFridaaayyy.

Don't be Afraid to Dream

2010-04-23T13:15:00.006-04:00

I think because I dream

A single thought is all it takes

to initiate change

Share your thoughts

How do u think the civil rights movement came about

When will there be another Harlem Renaissance?

When we don't think anymore

We dream only of big whips and big chains

How are you helping the youth?

When we only profess love for German cars and clothes with Italian names

Take in this laxative

I'm not washing out colons I'm cleansing for your brain

Stop looking for answers on your ~~Hot nine seven~~

And open a book

Freedom of speech stills exists

140 character limit is just a mental penitentiary

Always think big

Your mother may not agree

But you will appreciate your paycheck more when you follow your dreams

You father says there is no room for growth in that field

Success isn't only about money

Plenty of wealthy people walking around UN-happy

Carry on your family name with pride

Don't let anyone carry it on for you

Dreams start small

and end with movements

How will you know your role?

If you never let that dream manifest

You Don't Really Have Good P*ssy

2010-04-05T13:59:00.002-04:00

I never understood why Young Money wanted "to fuck every girl in the world.” Nothing is worse for a man or women to get naked, lick, suck, pump, sit on etc., for a half-ass nut and in some cases ~~no nut~~ at all. As a woman, you have the pussy so indeed you have the power. But power does come in levels, “all Pussy was not created equal,” I mean Hitler and Saddam were two bad mo-fo's but was their power on the same level? Now, ladies, I know you’re thinking, "I got that Hitler vag. I have dudes wrapped around my finger" but I hate to break it to you, your vag is just as powerful as the Queen of England. No, I am not contradicting previous blogs like "Power of the People,” ladies, the power of our land is held between your legs but not everyone can be a boss. Plenty of you have peasant vag but act like your shit don’t stink. Whose fault is that you’re asking? Why are lame, good for nothing bird chicks walking around telling dudes they got the bomb ass pussy? Same pussy that has been ran through more than the boroughs during the New York Marathon. It doesn't add up, right? Well, it's us, MEN who have put "the pussy on a pedestal.”

There is a surplus of vag scurrying the streets of NYC. I doubt a man could not find his preference in a big city like this one. Economics have taught us that "wants" are unlimited and the same theory applies to vagina. Rarely, have I found myself or any male friend not horny and in need of the comfort of some vagina. Men, being we are stupid and greedy pursue all types of vagina. Over the years with my maturity and experience my cock has started to live by term "Quality not Quantity.” Men and women have seen a very shapely female but even though she was blessed during puberty her genes in the looks department are obviously flawed. Women, being ~~evil~~ creatures, will be quick to say, “Oh the “bitch is ugly” but I bet if you asked a group of guys 75% of them would answer, "Yeah she ugly but I’ll still hit it.” Any man reading this may think I'm OD’ing on these numbers but would you sleep with Buffy the Body? I rest my case.

Vagina does not have a face to (some) men; we don’t need any real reasoning to sleep with a woman. As a result of men settling where they stick their dick, this has affected the quality of vag. Now we have But-her-head, rocking Uggs to the club, multiple baby daddies at 23-years-old women walking around being stush. Women always ask what makes good pussy and I could never answer it before because I was still "young nigga-minded." Depending on where in life a man is, good pussy is different. For a boy, good pussy equates getting head, throws it back during back shots and doesn't talk after you nut (preferably she goes home after you nut so you can finish that game of Madden). But as you age and (hopefully) mature, I do know a lot of 25 plus year-old boys, they grow in age but mentality is stagnant at 16, note to you gentlemen good pussy evolves. Good pussy is goal-oriented, has domestic capabilities and you are able to introduce her to momma. Unfortunately, in the past I have not treated my dick with the utmost respect. Instead of sexing just to fulfill a physical need men need to ask themselves this question while unwrapping that condom wrapper (hopefully you not living a Lil' Wayne lifestyle). "Would I take this chick home to my mother?” With that in mind, I guarantee your amount of sex partners has been cut into at least half. I know plenty of guys who don't even want their baby mother raising the kid they had together. I am a firm believer in the saying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” my cup of tea in a women is completely different from you but that settling for a nut has to stop. We always joke in person and on Twitter about chicks looking slummy on the streets or on messdressed.com. If these chicks knew they were a laughing stock do you think they would be walking around like this? Obviously some thirsty, impatient, low self-esteem dudes are sexing these chicks. Once we start to obtain more respect for our dicks women will start to step their game up. They will start wearing clothes again instead of Uggs and tights all year round, if they can't afford good weave they will go without it, instead of those plastic looking weaves and wigs. Stop going by the Buffy the Body standards because now unattractive chicks with fat tits and fat ass will stop walking around like they are the shit. Plenty of you thirsty niggas fall right into their trap anyway; if she is posting half naked pics of herself on Facebook/Twitter what does that say about her? Obviously, she can’t obtain attention through her mind. Tits eventually sag, intelligence doesn't.

Women are quick to say that they are single because there aren't any good men and they refuse to settle but men have clearly been settling now just for a nut and this has flooded our streets with high mileage poorly presentable vag. I usually rant on Twitter and my Facebook statuses about women walking around the streets in Uggs and tights all year round. Yes, we laugh and joke about my statuses and pics but this epidemic has affected the quality of vag walking our streets. Do you think men like cheap weaves, tights, Uggs, etc.? Stop complaining that you only meeting "no shit" niggas; if your goods are presented in shit packaging what do you expect to attract? Cockiness and confidence are words that have been confused. Cockiness in women is at an all time high yet we men cannot see what you are so confident about. Men are ~~very easily~~ stimulated visually but a set of round perky breasts or a NATURAL plump jiggly ass does not equate to good pussy ladies. Just because a bunch of guys poke you on Facebook or direct message you shit on Twitter doesn't mean you have good pussy. Oh, a particular promoter doesn't charge you to come into his parties? That does not mean you have good pussy! Did you ever think that you are half naked in your pics, you only discuss getting drunk on weekends, or countdown to partying in Miami Memorial Day weekend on these social networks? Think his inquiry is because he wants to wine and dine you or introduce you to Mommy? Why do we dress up for job interviews? It shows self-worth, value and makes good impressions to the employer. Ladies, the way you walk on the streets, the pics you post on the Internet, these are all pre-screen interviews. So stop complaining about men ain't shit and your pussy is too good. Actually you might not be shit so get some Febreze for your stinky ass. I know from those last few lines you are thinking what about the other side of the spectrum. Yes, there are some low life dirty niggas walking the streets and they have no shame to holla at you on your way to work. Like, seriously, you’re going to work he smoking a black and mild trying to get your number at 8a.m., you don't have no place to be negro? Can't help those fools though, you just need to make sure you’re on point, surround yourself with positive people and then you will realize that some men are actually shit. So your homegirl been working on her associates for 4 years now and counting? Cut her off. Your other friend working on baby father #3 before 25? Cut her off! The circle you keep, the places you go and the way you present yourself all determine what kind of men you are going to attract, so stop blaming men and keep your shit tight, no pun intended.

The Reality of Reality TV

2010-03-01T19:40:00.001-05:00

Every Tuesday around 10pm, if you sign into your Twitter or Facebook account there is a frenzy of updates regarding females like Natalie, Annie and Flo. I guarantee most of you already know where I’m going from that sentence. Yes, I am talking about the Bad Girls Club, for those out of the "loop". I indulged myself in BGC frenzy recently, I mean I had to see what the hype was all about. The first episode I saw, one girl Amber is in the club dancing with her legs around some random dude waist never mind that same female’s boyfriend was coming to visit the next day. In that same episode two of the residents of the house, Kendra and Lexi, have a threesome with some random guy they had just met. And I thought Pumpkin spitting in New York’s face on Flavor of Love was live!

Is there a trend going on here people? Bad Girls Club, America's Top Model, Harlem Heights, College Hill and the Godfather of Negro Reality TV Flavor of Love have taken over the conversation of lunchrooms, coffee shops and social networks. I mean, reality TV is basically now TV but it’s nothing new to America. Real World is on its “100th season” while other shows like Survivor, The Apprentice and Big Brother have been extremely popular over the years. More popular in the "non-colored" communities compared to aforementioned BGC, America’s Next Top Model etc. series. But where am I going with this piece you may be asking yourself? Research I conducted on the history of reality TV maybe? Wrong! Maybe this is about my thoughts on how the season of BGC will end being I have now been sucked back into the comforting bosom of reality TV? Wrong again! I am writing because, friends, you seriously need to WAKE THE FUCK UP! You are reading this like what is my beef, its good entertainment but the grip of these shows has gotten tighter and tighter. For you, it is just entertainment but what about the kids and teenagers who are growing up on this garbage. We had images of Steve Urkel, Alex Mack and Kennan and Kel growing up. Now Flava Flav, New York and Kendra are the topic of everyone’s conversation. Urkel's tight high waters pants never became a staple in the fashion industry but I bet you all know how to "fist pump" now. It doesn't seem like much when you’re tweeting about shorty from your block that "smashed the homies" but this is a prime example of the way our realities are now reality TV. We are constantly talking, thinking and some are even emulating all these images from these shows but what positive influence does reality TV have on us?....I'll wait. Personally, I am also very ashamed at my black queens for supporting these shows. I never sat down to watch "Rock of Love" but I don't have enough fingers and toes to count all the ignorant black bitches on BGC, Flavor of Love, Love of Ray J, etc. Do we not see how we are allowing these white corporate companies to lynch us daily on prime time television? We find it as entertainment but for white Billy from the Mid-west who lives in an all white community this is the perception he receives and believes is of black women.

We all have some sort of vice which we indulge in periodically and this is perfectly fine. (Unless it’s something illegal like smoking crack or committing murder). For example, my guilty pleasure is video games and all my friends know how much I love me some Xbox 360. Not as harmful as these reality shows but these guilty pleasures can clearly cause change on one personally (obesity, hinder development of social skills, etc) or harm relationships with people close around you. When we watch these shows even though we know it’s wrong those ratings congratulate the actions of these so called stars. A lot of dumb guys take those images, the whorish slimy women of these reality shows and what do you think goes through their heads when they ask your name in the club? Their intentions are definitely not to attend bible study class with you. I am not placing all the blame on reality television for the injustices and disrespect women still encounter on a daily basis. But when will it stop? At one point we had leaders fighting to empower females or empower the African-American race. In the 21st century our leaders are now polygamist preaching rappers and materialistic divas and model girlfriends. We are adults now and plenty of you out there have kids, or have a friend with children, are you not concerned with this generation following us? They are lost and if we stop supporting these negative images, which are being pumped into their sponge like minds, then maybe we have a chance. Just remember that you were warned. We tend to try to defuse issues when the shit already hit the fan. I was once told slow and steady wins the race so lets start TODAY.I appreciate everyone who has posted my pieces on their site, retweeted my site on Twitter or just wrote a comment on any of my blogs. That is my main purpose to spark that dialogue it is better we are discussing something positive compared to latest videos on WorldStarHipHop.com. Your homegirl who usually reminds you it's 10pm on Tuesday turn to Oxygen, reply to her text with my blogsite, spark up some new uplifting conversation. Do not look to Obama for change, change starts with you.

A Different Route

2010-02-22T18:53:00.005-05:00

A good friend of mine Absolut' the Great told me about this track he was recording and he wanted my involvement. Just after reading his part I knew this would be a hit. Very powerful track titled "Black Love". Check out his whole mixtape titled "RemyNisce" on Absothegreat.com. All original R&B remixes, he is getting his Drake on singing and rapping lol.

Download by clicking here---> Black Love

1:57 am

2010-02-19T12:54:00.003-05:00

Nice piece a friend e-mailed to me last night while I was in the club pouring Grey Goose down chick throats Say AHHH j/k but check it out. Thanks!

So I've been praying and praying
Praying so much even when I sleep I'm mumbling
My thoughts overwhelming
My pen tip abused
Calculations of life... Got my mind all bruised
All the should've's could've's and can't's
Got me in the position and now myself I can't stand
I need you around... But you can't help with this challenge
Again I need time just to make some shit balance
The look in her eyes her daughter she can't recognize
I've been changed ma... Its me , you just don't realize
And my heart, it hurts...
And my confidence is at a low
Because I haven't made you completely happy...
And I know
See I'm mumbling again... Its my words at a race.. I'm praying inside , its my thoughts...just no pace.
I want to please him her and you
Even me too
I get on my knees... I'm praying again
Can't you just BBM me what to do
God.........
Are you there
The message ain't get through

What is your purpose? Mental or Genital

2010-02-15T17:49:00.004-05:00

Statistics have proven that women outnumber men in the Big Apple. Which means there’s plenty of opportunity here for men to meet, greet and sleep with sexy, single educated ladies. A common complaint from women is that every guy they meet just wants to sleep with them. NO SHIT WOMAN!!! The physical outweighs the mental for men by a long shot. Look at all the images around us. Sex sells but even though men are the minority in most major cities, its easier to find a billboard or TV show with half naked women compared to half naked men. A woman should not complain when a man tries to sleep with you, he is letting his intentions be known, no sugar coating bullshit. The issue is, ladies, how many of you know what you want prior to meeting a man?

The only person who had golden roads leading her life was Dorothy and company in Wizard of OZ. But for us 80's babies our lives are engulfed with trying to hold on to our shitty 9-5 during a recession, some also raising a child on our own (shout out to all my hardworking single Moms. I love you, Mom) all while pursuing our long term goals and juggling a love life. With that being said there are two keys things one must ask themselves prior to "meeting" new people or engaging in the dating game again.

What am I looking for a fulfillment of: physical or mental need?

A relationship must consist of both parts listed here but the thing that plenty of us failed to realize is if a mental relationship is lacking in the physical department, it can be fixed or altered but its impossible the other way around. Entering my late twenties the Shotta Blogger attitude, swag, demeanor is basically set in stone. Mentally, if I can not provide what you want in a relationship, it’s not happening. But if for some weird, strange reason (not tooting my horn) I was lacking in a physical department they have books, toys, etc to help a couplesatisfy each others physical needs.

Women, as well as men, are guilty of trying to change a physical relationship into a real one when mentally that person can not/will not give you what you need. If the majority of your conversation only occurs after he ejaculates, your hope of a real relationship is as slim as the Olsen twins. Ladies, remember a man is probably most vulnerable right after he has an orgasm and may or may not say anything and everything you want to hear. It's crucial not to take everything to heart during the cute pillow talk because its a 50/50 chance and those odds are not good when it comes to your heart. Those sweet earlobe kisses, talk about the future could be genuine feelings but a true player also knows exactly what you want to hear because he wants to enter your chamber of love again. On the other hand he may say all the wrong things right after an orgasm because he doesn’t care or he is just naturally an idiot. Men say the wrong things on purpose because he has the assurance that you are not going anywhere; either his dick is on point, you put your feelings out there or he knows you’re not into multiple physical relationships. In both cases the woman is at fault because you told yourself and/or mate stated that you only wanted physical but now altering your motives. Only prostitutes are able to harbor feelings, not even just for a nut because their motivation is money. You can not jump into something serious because you know where his condom drawer is but don't even know simple shit like his favorite color. Being dick-whipped or pussy-whipped can make you bend over backwards for someone you do not know much about and think that you care about. When you start seeing someone mentally or physically, always get in the habit of checking yourself and not stepping out your boundaries because if you mix the physical with mental you are bound to end up just as an another notch on the belt.

Pain

2010-01-31T16:12:00.003-05:00

Heard the pain of a gushot is unbearable
I know how that feels
The feeling of my broken heart can compare
And this pain cannot be healed
The thought of you gone is like a fish without water
No gas in my automobile
No toy in my happy meal
I hate my caller ID because your face never appears
Every incoming text seems incorrect
Cause your name is never there
Tried drinking away my sorrows but
I'm just as empty as these beer cans
Cause me without YOU makes me less of a man
Don't let my sad words take you off course from your future plans
I wish you the best with your newborn and your new man

The Downfall of Vag

2010-01-21T15:38:00.002-05:00

ESPN’s SportsCenter, ABC News, Fox News, CNN, The Daily News and just about every other media network is headlining or discussing the now infamous Tiger Woods extra marital affairs incident. Its January 2010 A.D., men AND WOMEN have been creeping on their significant other since the biblical days, folks. Why has all this attention been placed on Tiger Woods for having 11 mistresses? Dudes in the hood have more than 11 baby mothers and they are not millionaires. Situations like that require more attention but that’s another story.

Women have been fighting for decades to obtain the same respect in society from men. Barriers have been broken but equality between men and women is a long road to be conquered. Why you ask? Women are holding themselves back! In “The Battle of the Sexes” women are notorious for pointing the finger of blame but we are given free will. Plenty of times you walk into a situation with a man/women and know the final outcome beforehand because of the type of person they are. The same thing applies to the Tiger Woods situation. Bloomberg News notes “86 percent of U.S. consumers over the age of 6 recognized Woods." So before engaging in filthy, raw, unprotected sex with Tiger, I can bet both my thumbs these women knew what they was getting into. It was no secret that he has been married since 2003 and father to two children. So his wife finds out about his affairs, cool, Tiger was slacking in his macking. Now, 11 females are now coming forward about their affairs, does it all make sense? History is known to repeat itself; do we not remember when Bill Clinton got caught? A few different women came forward about our president coming on to them. Most of it was bullshit, guess only a black man can satisfy multiple women (jokes just jokes folks). But seriously why do women put their whoring on front street after the man gets caught? Why is all this attention placed on Tiger? Is it because he plays golf? The sex was at least consensual, do we not remember the highly publicized Kobe situation? He allegedly fucked a white woman in the ass without her permission but was able to sweep it under the table and buy his wife a million dollar ring to regain her love. (Smart move by the way Kobe it beats divorce settlements i.e. Nas). But why have all these women cried wolf just because they sucked a famous dick. I doubt these women were all virgins prior to these famous cocks. They were satisfied before sucking and fucking a local barber, bus driver or deli department manager, so why cry wolf? Because of the fame! Plenty of females out there are dealing with stock boys from Home Depot but once you wrap your lips around a "real" rapper, athlete etc. (not talking local Smack DVD Rucker negros) you are just as "famous."

How many men have looked for fame off of famous females?
I'll wait...I pondered the question myself.
The most famous is Steadman (and he doesn't even want the fame) behind him is Kevin Ferderline. I mean Ferderline was white trash so he didn't know how to play his role; he started to act just like these wolf in sheep clothing females. But do we not see the trend that has been built over the years ladies? You let the media degrade you nationally and internationally with all these scandals and affairs. Tiger eleven hos are now known on a first name basis around the world but after their reality shows, book deals and Playboy photos where will they be? Ladies you have not been "making the money, you letting the money make you." Wouldn't it make more sense to be the mistress behind closed doors compared to the worldwide known dicksucker? Do we not remember the phrase "Lady in the streets, Freak in the bed?"

So rewind this Tiger situation and I am Mistress #5. So Tiger is busted and I am looking at the news, I see these other dumb hos coming forward about their affairs. All I would do is send Tiger a text and say "Fuck You, Pay Me." You think men like to get caught especially on the level Tiger is at? This man is losing money over these broads so it would be smarter and easier for him to just pay them some sort of hush money to keep their mouths shut. Who loses in this situation?!?! I would prefer a lifetime of wealth compared to five minutes of fame. Fame as a home wrecker?? "C'mon Son".

Look, my beautiful, smart, elegant ladies you need to take a stand. “One bad apple spoils all the vag” (2010 Shotta Blogger twist). Gold digging is clearly the motive of many women out there. They slanging they clit in fields, areans and now golf courses in pursuit of five minutes of fame. This mentality trickles down though to men everywhere in all fields politicans, garbage men, the head cashier at C-town even damn dollar van drivers. Before you even open your mouth ladies most men look at you as an object looking for quick come-up. Your job, in any interaction, with a male is to let him know your self-worth. When you at the bar if he offers to buy you a drink, refuse, do not give him that “power.” Little shit like that will mess a guys head up because to the majority of us you are no better than one of Tiger’s hos. I want to see all the vagina around the world liberated! Big vag, little vag, pretty vag, ugly vag, ALL VAG, you are a bitch because you call yourself bitches. Stop blaming men! Don’t show your independence through a Louis Vuitton bag; show it with a condo purchase! Do not let these infamous hos hold you back ladies; you are the Queens of this land and its time to RE-claim your position in this society.

The Art of War: Cheat Smarter not Harder

2009-12-26T22:05:00.005-05:00

Men are dogs, that’s a given. It’s because we have no shame and we just shit anywhere, unlike our female counterparts who move like cats and cover their shit in the litter box. Therefore, fellas, the old saying never changes "If you can't beat ‘em, join ‘em." Get a pen and pad ready, gentlemen, we are going to analyze how we failed at cheating for so long where as females have excelled.

We cannot sit here listing and analyzing why men cheat because the reasons are endless but for a women it is very simple and straight forward. She is either unhappy with her current spouse physically or mentally or she just has a "male" sex drive and her boyfriend isn't enough to fulfill her sexual appetite. Regardless of the reason it appears to be a part of the female DNA to have mastered the "art" of juggling multiple partners with a higher percentage of not getting caught.

Take for example, guys night out, no girlfriends allowed. Tonight’s destination is the nightclub where you can eye fuck free before midnight ladies unreservedly. Club is packed, music is right and at the bar a 5'9 long haired, size D, barely fitting in that dress (which is probably one size too small) with the roundest backside female approaches you. Of course, you buy her a drink and engage in some small talk. Before you depart you make your move and ask for her number which she bestows into your cell phone without any hesitation. A few phone conversations pass and both of your schedules finally match with free time one Friday evening. Out to dinner, good conversation and drinks flowing when she hits you with the million dollar question. "Are you currently involved with anyone?" This is usually the beginning of the end for most men because we always answer "No" even though it’s actually "Yes". I mean, how can you risk her getting completely turned off from you right now? Shit if you play your cards right you may even hit it tonight. Doesn't matter gentleman, as the saying goes "The truth shall set you free," and the same rules apply in the art of cheating (to a certain extent.) One major issue men have to deal with living a double love life is keeping up with the lie with both ladies. Women avoid this issue by telling their "jumpoff" about their main squeeze. I mean, its easier for women to explain because what man is going to get emo about a physical relationship with some random dude’s girlfriend? But for men, society has frowned upon women who take the girlfriend #2 role. So when you are hit with the question of your involvement, the infamous line from "The Best Man" pops into a mans head, "Ain't no pussy better than new pussy." On one hand, you can risk wasting those phone conversations, dirty text messages, and dates, and go home to the same vag. On the other hand, if you lie about your relationship you can increase your chances to motorboating those D Size breasts from the club. Gentlemen have we not learned that a "loyal" girlfriend #2 is hard to come by (ask Tiger), and in order to even build that situation, you need some honesty. This requires a lot of self-control and wasted dates because it is rare that a female will have no issue playing number 2-- but is it not worth it? In comparison to juggling lies between two females, and now spending double... not many females like to spend Valentine's Day alone. ~~So in 2010 fellas let’s cheat smarter not harder.~~ Do not sweep a girl off her feet based off a lie, you can save yourself a lot of headaches and money. So while in pursuit know when to lie and when to tell the truth. Never lie about the girlfriend! I’m tired of women saying men are dogs because we shit in public, simply because they cover their shit: the odor stills exist and it is not sweet! Ladies, the secrets are out and we know how you move. Look out for more lady cheating tips in the near future.

In the Dictionary Originality comes before Success

2009-11-23T01:40:00.006-05:00

As citizens of The United States of America, we reside in the land of opportunity and golden roads. Living in this country as a young African American man, I have come to the realization that many of my peers rarely talk and reflect upon all of the advantages we have in 2009. If I took a time machine and went back 100 years, I would think I was living in the times of slavery. I say all this to pose these questions: Are you working at your full potential? Are you working in a field that makes you happy? Is there an opportunity for advancement for you? I ask this in 2009 because when I look at my peer groups, I see a bunch of Indians posing as Chiefs. I do not think that we are not working at our full potential. What are you doing to leave your name in a different category from everyone else?

We browse our favorite blog sites and social networks to stay updated of the world around us on a daily basis. Lets be serious, in 2009 anyone and everyone has a blog. Some of them range from serious content (i.e. www.ifundthemental.com coming soon), to more casual content, but it leads me to pose the question yet again, what are you doing different from your peers?

Every random encounter with an old school mate, and every random profile I browse upon on Twitter or Facebook is a ~~rapper/fashion blogger/model/singer/promoter/party photographer/you catch my drift.~~ I do try to support my peers and their endeavors, as some of them actually have talent, and others need to stick to their day jobs. For my friends who do pursue the more "typical" of the dreams, I always ask them what is their Plan B. There have been various times I have been told "There is no Plan B," or "I'm going to get signed and drop a platinum album," or "I'm going to win America's Top Model and become a Ford Model." Not having a Plan B is not only sad, but also a major risk. I love writing and hope to get published one day, but dreams are not going to keep the lights on. Shit, if I don't have the funds to pay Con Ed, I wouldn't be able to power up my PC to write and entertain my readers. I am not trying to deter you from your dreams, but I believe that it is essential to have a back-up plan. Right now, my main hustle is working with a state-funded afterschool program, and I try to pass on my wisdom to the youths. I have seen a whole classroom of young boys telling me they are going to be like Lebron, yet they have already been left back in elementary or junior high school. Maybe my words will encourage at least one of them to pick up their notebook and study, instead of solely depending on a basketball scholarship. I would love to prove the benefits of Plan B for them before it is too late. Maybe then, all of these overnight "CEO's" of promotion teams, record labels, party websites, etc. could have actually been avoided. Who is to blame you ask? Take a look in the mirror! With so many phrases like "I'm gonna keep it 100" floating around, you would think that more people would be doing just that. Instead, many have fallen victim to doing the complete opposite. I have seen horrible local rappers with a movement- a rapper and about 3 "YES men." A "YES man" does not equate to an A&R because if they was so good at scoping talent, they would not be in the hood, but working for a Def Jam, Roc Nation etc. We should all take upon the task of living by the phrase "Be Yourself." Ask your friend’s questions like "Have you done research for the field you are trying to get into," or "What original ideas or concepts will differentiate you from the masses?" Simple questions like those may deter their specific dreams for the better, or make your friend actually step their game up! In recent years, I have witnessed the erection of party websites where the "CEO" of the site has little to no interest in photography, and might not even know what Photoshop is. Money is their only motivation, but I would like to give the fair warning, do not become a slave to money. Does it make sense to enter a field when every other week you have a new competitor? Be yourself friends, if you like a field, do the research and educate yourself. The only fast money that happens overnight is the Lotto. Why are we always on such a paper chase anyway? Because unfortunately, "swag" is defined by which luxury brands are being worn and which European car is being driven, which is a damn shame. True swagger lies within originality and education. Anyone can buy a Gucci belt and take a few pictures with an overpriced bottle of liquor on a Wednesday night, but will you be doing that in 10 years? Do thoughts like that ever cross your mind? Indeed, life is short and enjoy your youth, but live an original life, not the collage of celebrities and your peers.

The World is at your Fingertips

2009-11-10T22:53:00.011-05:00

Hello again! Thanks for reading once again, and allowing me to entertain you as you enter the brain of the “Shotta Blogger.” Some of you reading are new friends, many of you are old friends. This simple connection from my brain to your job computer ~~(your ass should be working but keep reading lol)~~ or Blackberry/iPhone screen has all been made possible by the internet. No, I am not going to give a history lesson on the internet or the world wide web (which are actually two different things that are often used as synonyms. Do that research next time you are taking a 30 minute shit while on the clock.) But for all my true 80's babies (not the ones who dress like one), just think about how much our lives have changed from elementary school to high school as a result of the expansion of the internet. Do you remember when having a computer was a luxury item? Nowadays, not having one in your house almost feels incomplete. Do you remember when you use to sit in AOL chat rooms all night and your mom would plug the PC out of the phone jack? Those were the good ol' 56k days, but now you can get access to the Web from almost all four corners of the Earth. With these bits of information and nostalgic references, I would like to pose a question: How has the internet benefited you? I know it has its cons when your boss sends e-mails to your Blackberry on a Saturday afternoon, but it was cool when you were able to buy your final paper because you skipped class the whole semester right? How many hours have been wasted at work shopping, playing word games, or e-mailing friends? How much time have you spent at home downloading music illegally, watching videos on YouTube, or even watching porn? Have you ever thought about the amount of time we will spend in our lifetimes surfing the web? Even though our jobs may block certain websites, we still have access from our mobile devices that allows us to stay connected. Even your exact location can be displayed on networks such as Twitter: Everything down to the building number that you are in can be identified via advanced GPS systems. Look at how communication and dating has evolved as result of the internet. Dudes may not even ask for your number anymore, "just follow me on twitter” *insert bbm confused face.* Do you remember when the US government tried to have stricter regulations in regards to what content was viewed by its citizens surfing the internet? There are many countries which still do, most of which aren't necessarily BFF with the US. But why do you think the US did not follow through with the censorship? The answer: Our First Amendment rights. But ummm, since when has our country really cared about our rights? C'MON SON this is the same country that let Bush Jr. take office when we all know we didn't vote for his ass. The government takes serious precautions in their attempts to prevent illegal use of internet. The FBI anti-piracy stickers placed on all CD covers stands as a prime example of the precautionary measures taken in the government and music industry's fight against the illegal practices of downloading music. C'MON SON, are they serious? Even though it isn’t regulated, I want you to go Google “How to Make A Shoe Bomb” and see how many Feds knock on your door. Clearly, this proves that you don’t truly have privacy from Big Brother on your PC. Do you know why the internet was never regulated? They want to keep your dumb ass occupied and waste countless hours like we all have been doing for years instead of being productive. In the time that we waste on the Web with the videos and games, we could be enlightening ourselves with something positive. The Internet is a free encyclopedia, and I'm not talking about ~~Wikipedia~~ because as most people know, it is not a credible source. Despite having all of this free information on the internet, I can bet that very few people can show me how to illegally download a book, but everyone can explain how to illegally download their favorite CD. These are just my thoughts and I am not judging anyone because I watch as much dumb shit on the web as you. But sadly, there are some grown ass men that cannot change a flat tire but can tell you 5 websites that show free porn. So folks, the next time that you have a paper due or you have some free time on a Sunday evening, decide on whether or not you will be productive with your Macbook, or waste more brain cells on YouTube.

Ladies say Men are Dogs, Takes One to know One

2009-10-16T22:33:00.009-04:00

Even though I recently stepped up my shaving skills and became a baldie, there is one thing I will always miss: barbershop conversations. Lessons are learned, disputes are settled and friends are made during barbershop conversations. Fresh off of my annual trip to Miami Carnival, I was able to connect with friends and have some good ol' traditional barbershop convo over 190 octanes and wings. One of the funniest topics discussed were "great moments of hookup history." We live vicariously during the successful attempts and roast each other for hours on the failed attempts. One of my counterparts told us an amazing hookup story of his during one of our sessions. At "Shine," an annual Breakfast party during carnival weekend, my friend tells us how he had his eye on one girl most of that morning. The way she moved her ass, as well as its circumference made him as determined as Dylan, Dylan, Dylan in the recording studio. Towards the end of the event, he approaches her and numbers are exchanged. Typical Miami shit right? Wrong.
He goes on to text her later to see what she will be getting into for the night and says he would love to see her. Man o man, did my boy strike gold as she was just as determined as him to get up. She was so determined that she told her friends to go to the club without her. Clearly we know what went down. End story, right? Wrong!
After one round of Miami daggering, she makes requests for more but a different venue. While in her hotel room, her cell phone was ringing off the hook. While exiting the hotel, a car pulls up and the chick knows the driver of the vehicle. She left my friend behind for brief chit chat and returns telling him "that was just a friend." He described the "oh shit" look on the driver face he as priceless. They go back to his place and knock out round 2. During round 1 when a request was made for Bernie Mac special attention, she asked him if he was returning the favor. Why would a man kiss you up top or below he does not know you! To his advantage, he strikes gold again as she performs amazing fellatio prior the round 2 daggering. End story again right....Wrong!
We go on to ask about her friends who she was staying with, and if they are from New York also because we need to link with these chicks ASAP. "Sorry fellas, that’s not happening. She kept it 100 with me and goes on to tell me she fucked the "mystery driver" a few days ago and she's married!" So in less than 24 hrs, this married woman sucked and fucked you, and is now home kissing her husband? Who knows how many other guys got to explore her vaginal walls while in Miami. Like I said in the past, ladies stop blaming men. ~~We are not all cheating low-life dogs.~~ Only time you ladies should call a man a dog is it he masturbates instead of sexing u. Cheating requires 2 parties unlike jerking off. Granted, I don't know shorty's situation between her and her husband, but its bad enough to drive her to get her "groove back" while he sits at home. Contrary to what the masses make us believe, men are weaker compared to women but you ladies have been playing the victim role for too long! I can’t even explain it, ladies- your shape, your lips, your hair, ~~your taste~~, it just makes men weak! Friends stab friends and family members in the back over you! I just need my Queens to stop with the bullshit and keep it funky. I DO NOT want to hear anymore men are dogs, I don’t need no n*gga etc. Men are DOGS, Women are DOGS get a leash or invest in cats because you will die alone and lonely.

Signing off folks...... Southbeach Shotta aka Shotta Blogger

Do More Than Rock Pink Ribbons

2009-09-27T21:44:00.004-04:00

No man likes a spitter ladies. There is no rebuttal to this argument or solution other than joining the club of ladies who swallow. I have made jokes with my single female friends of reasons why they are single. One of the easiest ways to keep a man and keep him happy is being able to throw down in the kitchen and swallowing after performing electrifying head. I am not here to give you my thoughts on why you should swallow we are not in a relationship I can really give two shits but read this article <--click and next time you are performing fellatio to your husband, boyfriend, sugar daddy, jumpoff etc. just think about your health :)

No Progress? Where Is The Struggle?

2009-09-17T13:07:00.008-04:00
Most of our parents told us growing up not to settle for nothing. These words have fallen upon deaf ears in our generation. Even though they teach us about Negros getting lynched, hosed down, forming boycotts, being the catalysts for CHANGE but now it is hard to motivate a nigga to go to the store for a dutch or backwood. Many barriers have been broken but Racism is alive and well my friends. Yes Obama is president but what kind of progression have we made as a people within the last decade? Slim to none why because WE are the problem!

Sean Bell, Don Imus, Fox News are just a few household names which spark the racist light bulb when discussed. But what has been the result in most modern day cases of racism? When was the last time we heard of true justice or major change for one of our counterparts? I’ll wait…Why? Because I am just as guilty in many cases just like you reading, "I don’t give a fuck" to the injustices it didn’t happen to me so it’s not my issue. Some reading are so blind by society that you literally don’t give a fuck you think everything is cool happy because its only a 50/50 chance a NYPD will shoot you by mistake and get a slap on the wrist. Then there are plenty like me who know there is a problem but it feels like we are soldiers equipped with only a machine gun and an empty clip. The main issue is the lack of unIty. "I" capitalized because that is all we are concerned with as a people.

"And Nigga say Nigga to a Nigga, Nigga say Nigga in a lyric, expect a white boy to omit" - Wale "The Kramer"

I believe we have feel so far behind in the struggle we need to take baby steps to get back on point. The influence for this piece came on Sept. 11th 2009 while watching the Fuse network do Superbowl numbers because of the Jay-Z concert. The concert which I worked harder than 3 dayworkers to get tickets for but saw a majority of "non-colored” folks on my television. Is Hov shouting out Bensonhurst and Bay Ridge when he asked "Where Brooklyn At" but this is besides the point I am trying to make. Vibing to the concert with some henny and Papa Johns and Hov begins to perform "Jigga my nigga". As Hov builds the energy of the crowd having them recite the chorus by pointing the mic toward them I see the cluster of Tom's Dick's and Susie's on my TV singing Hov lyrics word for word. Chris Rock during his last skit made a joke about non colored folks and Do's and Don'ts of the word NIGGA but we clearly as a people disregard the history of this word. We have a man like Jay-z who has made history more than once in the music industry with "non-colored" folks paying to see him at MSG streamed lived on national TV saying the word NIGGA in unison. Rosa Parks might as well be doing the stanky leg in her grave. In almost any other situation if a "non colored" person uses the word NIGGA every black person goes from Dr. Bruce Banner to the Incredible Hulk. But when we singing Nigga What, Nigga Who/Live Nigga Rap/Hood Nigga etc. white folks get a bye? I know we hear it all the time from those who do use the word NIGGA that our ancestors fought so we could be called by our name instead of NIGGA or BOY but we still to this day use it like toothpaste. I, myself am guilty for usage of the word NIGGA and I am taking the first step of trying to eliminate it from my vocabulary. But I can not do it alone I need EVERY ONES help. I NEED YOU to stop using it altogether also! The Pause movement has swept over our culture like wildfire with usage at an all time high with twitter pages such as the Pause Police but let’s act our age and not out shoe size people. Its easy to spread negativity as the saying goes one bad apple will spoil it for the bunch so let's all join together and spread some positive energy for a change. Tell your counterparts to stop the usage also, make it into a game charge a quarter for every time it is used. Money is a good bargaining chip to influence change.

Plenty more points on the topic at hand but let’s take baby steps because we have a lot of ground to make up people. We have been lacking a strong black leader for a while now so fuck it lets be the leader ourselves. Your voice may not hit millions of ears but maybe you can make a difference on your block, your building, your classroom etc. If we all make that small change we will become a major force like a snowball rolling down Mt. Everest.

PS - Sorry about that last post the article is false got it via a BBM message didnt do the research just thought it was kind of funny and wanted to share :X

Fishing for Va Jay Jay (Oprah Voice)

2009-09-10T00:23:00.004-04:00
The summer has come to a close end and we are now ~~entering "cuffing" season~~…for some individuals, that is. Plenty of our peers find it hard to settle with one love interest for an extended period of time and find themselves constantly networking their cock or ebony nest to the members of the opposite sex. The art of f*cking is different for men and women. In this day and age it takes much more than a college degree to get someone’s daughter in your bed, there are plenty of factors which lead to less talking and more sucking for men. When you are in the process of giving a guy your number or being introduced by a mutual friend, the only thoughts at that moment for a man is “What is going to be the easiest and quickest way I will get her naked?”

Guys generally do go to school to better themselves and to acquire big high paying jobs, but the underlying factor is to get more p*ssy during college and even more after college. The thing about school is that it is a big investment, your cock is more attractive when it says Yale compared to York college (no shots for my people at York) so most men have taken other routes as bait for p*ssy.

Bikes - No not Pee Wee Herman but sports bikes, all women are attracted to bikes like Osama to terrorism and men know this. I have seen numerous bike clubs around NYC and not one of them niggas have done anything in the community except white line while I sit in traffic. Those vests are not for fashion they have become pussy magnets.

Cars - It also does not make sense to me why women are attracted to nice whips. Just because a guy has a nice car does not mean you going anywhere except his back seat. Men have been using nice cars for bait for years and you girls still have not learned you are only f*cking the man not his exhaust pipe.

Promoters - The party scene is one of the funniest to me. The things girls will do just to skip the line or be guaranteed free entry. Is your twat only worth $20?? Where is your pride ladies? Why would you give a man your body just for a free ticket? Is a party really going to be worth it if that promoter gets you pregnant or an ~~incurable STD~~?

Photographers - This is even lower than giving your body to all the promoters. I can't even figure out the mind state of you females who sleep with them for the hell of it. Are you attracted to his finger for snapping photos of you? Monkeys know how to use cameras! I know a few of these website photographers and ~~they are not even into photography.~~ They do it for the extra income and the added benefits ;). Another form of p*ssy bait.

There are two ways to handle your va jay jay ladies. Everyone knows the saying "Good things come to those who wait" but ladies have failed to understand that cock is Mega Millions. Only a few people hit the jackpot! You ladies are spreading yourselves to thin by giving yourself to a man based on material things or his status. I mean we all looked down on Monica Lewinsky but I know plenty women have sucked off a flashy nigga with a GED compared to the President of the United States. If you respect yourself and your body a man will have no choice but to respect you. There are plenty of bad apples making it harder for you respectable hard-working ladies but trust there are plenty of guys not living that fast life. Don't you know a guy would prefer to come home to a warm body in his bed compared to running the streets with a 50/50 chance of obtaining a body for just one night? Plenty of fish in the sea for us fellas but ladies the ball is in your court. Men are always fishing for va jay jay so grab the bait with caution.

Land of the Free, Home of the Dumb!

2009-08-25T03:13:00.000-04:00
I am a twenty-five year old African-American male and I am a statistic. Go figure...

I am a twenty-five year old African-American male and I was not raised on tax-payers dollars but I am a statistic.

I am a twenty-five year old African-American male without any kids or criminal record but I am a statistic.

I am a twenty-five year old African-American male with a degree from an institution of higher education but I am a statistic.

What makes me a typical African-American statistic you may ask? I am a twenty-five year old unemployed African-American, a small hundredth of a hundredth of the still rising 9.5% unemployment rate in America. It’s been a few months and I will tell you first hand the industry sucks a whole lot of Bigfoot, Loch nest Monster and Moby Dick. I am not writing to discuss our current economic state you are probably tired of hearing about it just like me but yet I wanted to share an experience from one of my most recent job interviews.

Verizon Wireless subcontracts all its customer service through this company called Flextronics. The employees are usually located in the back of the Verizon Wireless retail stores. So a good friend of mine recently became a manager with Flextronics and said there are some openings I should look into. Applied late night Sunday, early Monday I get a call to interview. So the interview is at the Roosevelt Hotel in Midtown, Manhattan. Nice spot just from the ambiance of the lobby alone, the patrons were all clearly tourists. You know when someone’s walking around looking confused and can't speak a blink of English? Perfect depiction of the lobby. Anyway I'm sitting outside the room waiting for the interview the start, more black folk start coming in the waiting area and then a few things pop up which are signs I should have got up and left. One kid walks in with a white collar shirt, un-tucked, with a pair of jeans and a pair of Prada’s. FAIL. Another kid comes in an Express sweater no dress shirt under the sweater, no tie and just sits there on his Iphone the whole time we are waiting. FAIL. The funniest one to me was the kid who comes in khakis with a white button up and tie, UNTUCKED. MAJOR FAIL. So interview starts and they are actually group interviews. Four to five candidates to table, so of course I scope out the competition. Girl #1 worked at a few clothing stores, Girl #2 only experience is Starbucks and Boy #1 worked 6 months at T-Mobile and Victoria Secrets for a month, FYI I was the only one with a college degree at the table. So there are four rounds of questions from four different mid-level executives. During the 1st round, the interviewer asked for resumes. I was the only one with resume paper and 2 out of the four at the table were multiple paged resumes. Don't get it twisted 2 paged resumes are suitable in some cases but as aforementioned all the other candidates had ~~less~~ education, experience, and achievements compared to me so in this scenario FAIL.

During one round of questions they ask Girl #2 about her job at Starbucks. She goes on to explain why she demoted herself from her position which was higher than a regular crew member. "I am planning on going back to school because I never finished" she tells lady interviewer. So the lady interviewer goes on and says, “Education is important but with the constant adjustment of shifts it wouldn't be a good idea to go back to school if you are employed with Flextronics”. Wait did this lady just say you can either settle for this 15 dollar an hour job or choose to finish college? In many cases the way we are slaves to the almighty dollar an individual would put school on the backburner and pursue a job. Many of our peers who need another year or two to finish college usually state “I’ll go back next semester”, by the time they actually register again they are 30 plus with a couple of kids.

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves-regret for the past and fear of the future” – Fulton Oursler

I was asked what attracted me to the company, being I never had experience hands-on with communications but some which correlated with the position. "Well my friend who is currently an employee was recently promoted, and I know with my experience I will be able to advance with your growing company" which translates to “A nigga needs a job so I will settle for your bullshit shifts and pay until Obama "fixes" our economy”. After a few rounds of questions, we filled out some paperwork and waited for the management to make the final decisions in the hallway. So after ten minutes, one manager comes out and calls 3 candidates....only 3 people didn't fit the job. Guess the industry is booming. Another manager follows and calls a large group of about fifteen people including myself and I'm thinking “Yeah we bout to get offered this wack ass job but I will more than likely say no unless we can negotiate my pay because I am clearly OVERqualified”.

"We are sorry ladies and gentlemen we found some better candidates for the position and we are ~~unable~~ to offer you a position"

Re-muthaf*cking-wind. Better candidates? So Girl#1 and Girl#2 are included in this group with me probably because #1 had no electronics experience and #2 because she actually wanted to better herself with a collegiate education. In regards to myself, I have plenty of electronics experience being at Circuit City along with customer service experience from Circuit City and the banks I worked at, in addition I had a college degree, ~~doesn’t it count for something~~? I probably had more education than some of the management. Now Boy #1 with only 6 months work experience got the job compared to other individuals from my table with work experience and a college education. This is America people where the rich get richer and the dumb keeps them richer being worker ants in their multi-million dollar corporations. How can I tell my kids to go to college with the life I'm currently living? I know more fellow alumni unemployed and looking for work, while those who placed education on the back burner have more access to $12-$15/hour jobs (still ain't shit to survive in NYC) but sh*t what choices we have in this current recession.

Even though I did not get the job I learned a lot about our economy from this interview. As usual, I scoped out the "competition" and I did not see future CEO's, "Big Willie's" or "Don's" from those pursuing the job with Flextronics. It's sad to say though everyone wants to buy a CLS or 745, and some broke folk buys them anyway, but are unable to afford the premium gas required for these types of vehicles. It all boils down to people settling- the manager knew not to hire someone of my caliber even though I was clearly qualified because I know that the pay would not suffice for the job duties and from jump I had "goals" to make management. These corporate companies survive by the blood sweat and tears of worker ants (the interviewees) who are trying to live CEO's lives on minimum pay. But after a few years of "I'll go back to school next semester" you become STUCK and that's exactly the road set up for Boy#1.

One funny observation I have picked up from the slew of interviews over the past few months is how much money America wastes yearly on education. As a public school kid from Kindergarten up until college, there were many pros and cons within my education. One thing which does not make sense is I am taught how to make babies and put on condoms in school but they never teach you how to prepare for a job interview. Why are grown people walking around with an improperly prepared resume or no resume at all?? Does it make sense that I learn how to use my cock prior to getting a job?

God Bless America!

Letter to my Father

2009-08-18T02:04:00.006-04:00
Do not talk to my father much so I decided to write him something for his birthday which recently passed. Tell me what you think.

The Life of a G never knew it
Appears I've been stuck on F

Fucked

by you
depression instilled deep under my left breast
U wasn't around to hear when I touched my 1st pair of breasts
Even missed my little league graduations and my regents tests
Knowing ur alive makes life a living hell
Scared of mirrors like a vampire because your face is still here
Now I am a man no thanks to you
And when I become successful all the credit goes to you
You showed me exactly what not to do to be a man
You have taught me how to rise against the social statistics of a black man
College degree no kids and like Rakim thinking of the master plan
This is the only way we can communicate because all my calls texts and e-mails some how only work one way
Over the yrs March 4th hasn't meant shit to you just another day but Aug 9th is all about you
So take this poem it's from your son's heart to you dad
Happy 44th Birthday

The Kelly Blue Book of Vag

2009-07-31T17:54:00.004-04:00

Recently was talking to some friends about college, the funny times, sad times, and the nasty times ;). Of course one part of the conversation was the introduction of Facebook, originally a "networking" tool for students of the higher education system but now anyone can make a Facebook page and you can even make a Fan page for your pet Goldfish if you desire.

Social Networks are easily the culprit of late nights during week days or attention whores while in class or the train. It funny how these sites have become the “networking” sources for our generation. Seriously you may not even ask a chick for her number just tell her "Tweet me". Ladies you must be aware that these social networks might be the factor which determines if a man wants to take you to dinner or take you for short stay at the Motel 6.

One of the biggest ego crushers for a man is being seen "cuffin" a female who has been around the block a few times. So be aware prior to that first date (real G's do this) or right after that first date a man is checking all your mutual friends or followers (now with Twitter explosion). First he is trying to see your circle of female friends then he will look at the males you are associated. This is the basic way that men Carfax the vag. Depending on the man he may "pay his 19.95 for a full review and accident report" on the vag. This varies by the network of the male. A well known/charismatic individual will know other individuals "in the know". With all this technology a quick text message/e-mail/facebook message can give a man 80% accurate review of mileage (bodies known she took down) and accident report (children or abortions). As aforementioned in my previous post men are emotional bitches. One of the biggest ego crushers is "wifing"/"cuffing" a female who got ran through by Tom, Dick, Harry and Harry's 3rd cousin. In most major cities such as New York vag supply is always high like our current unemployment rate so you ladies have less to work with compared to us males. Most ladies already are very picky and particular so I know it’s even worse when it comes to who you sleep with. That is not a bad thing at all, but you ladies have failed to realize most the dudes you want to or have slept with know the other men you slept with. Prior to the social networks you only had even less choices ladies but now you can find yourself a cutie from the Bronx from your dorm room/office minus the train ride.

"Females will fake an orgasm for an relationship while a male will fake a relationship for an orgasm"

Ladies instead of getting tattoos of fuckery on your lower back ya'll should tattoo that quote. Every time he gives you backshots he will either enjoy it or have a guilty conscious. Ladies always saying they do not understand men but we are very simple creatures. Men are simply freelance actors. Some are better compared than others but a man is just trying to play a role which ends up him getting the "starring role" or the No-Pants Dance. So ladies please make much better decisions of who you sleep with; Technology has made life easier for us men. Usually when you sleep with someone they say you are sleeping with everyone they been involved with prior. Same applies when you accept that friend request.

The M in EMO means Male

2009-07-27T11:31:00.005-04:00

I am going to be the first to admit it ladies and gentlemen. Men are emotional bitches. There I said it! Ladies have known it for generations and men have never had the balls (no pun intended) to admit it. The truth has always been evident that men are the weaker species.

Few examples:

Domestic Violence Cases in America (sign of weakness)
How many husbands we see murdered on the news compared to wives especially in regards to a break-up/divorce/crush of some sort?
What is the percentage of women who take a man back caught cheating compared to males?

These are just three quick examples where us men display our weakness and let our emotions take over our minds and bodies in some cases. Society has hidden it from you ladies but men are really M&M characters. Hard on the shell but really soft on the inside. How many powerful, successful men have met their downfall due to a woman?

One of the hardest things for a man is a good break-up. When ya'll run into each other at your favorite restaurant, randomly encounter each other on the train or when you catch him shopping with his new girl in Soho. Emergency brakes, only a few days, weeks and he is out shopping with a next broad. Ladies don’t feel a kind of way when you see your Ex with another female so quickly. If commitment or attention was a culprit of the separation that "new" other female is a sign of his interest in you. Most ladies first reaction would be jealousy but just take that female as a salute. Women are more likely to take a break after a break-up (good or bad) but what man would really want to lose the benefits of a "wifey" (yes I hate that word like most of you but the shoe fits). It’s clear that men are much dumber compared to women that's why we always caught cheating. So instead of sitting back, reflecting, and rebuilding over a time a man will immediately grab the closest chick to him and try to continue where ya'll left off. So all movements after a good break-up are done in your name so be flattered ladies not upset.

Gentlemen we got to keep it real with ourselves also now. Stop walking around acting like a caveman because we all know how you are a little bag of emotions behind doors with your lady. It really saddens me that guys now move different because of stupid songs like "Gimmie $20" from Ron Brownz. Cuffin was at an all time high before that song came out. You sit there and try to be "cool" because of a song when a cuffin ass brother like me comes along you will end up a lonely dude with 20 bucks in your pocket.

There Once Was A Housewife Who Was A Ho

2009-07-14T00:01:00.005-04:00

There are certain rules of "Niggadom" (courtesy of Katt Williams) which are written in stone and there have never been amendments to this book, EVER. We have things like pouring out liquor for lost homies, beef patties with cheese for breakfast in Junior High and High School and trade use of your EBT card in return for cash to buy malt liquor. One rule which I feel needs to be amended is the ban of turning a Ho into a Housewife. Plenty of men do it and they are shunned and laughed at on a daily basis but those are the smartest guys around!

I was taught in Economics in college that wants are unlimited and resources are limited. This is true for WOMEN but not for MEN when it comes to relationships. A man must make money and spend a lot of money to get large quantities of vag. Nice car, house, clothes etc. are not purchased because a man needs it...it is the vag bait.

Take a typical relationship in perspective and I will prove to you why a Ho is better Housewife any day!

Boy sees girl and bags girl
Boy takes girl out and woos her with good conversation
Girl sleeps with boy days...weeks...maybe months for those patient enough
Mission Accomplished Right...WRONG
Boy now hangs with boys, plays Playstation burps at dinner table a lot of shit girl does not like
Girl argues with Boy because going out to eat is now McDonalds
Girl argues because Boy only texts now does not call
Girl argues argues and argues...
List can go on forever but basically Boy is just fucking up now all around because he has no “wants” but Girl wants never end

Now in contrast the Ho-Girl whole scenario is simple and sweet

Boy sees Ho and bags Ho
Ho sleeps with Boy and Boy turns into Waldo

That is where we mess up as men. Women are no different from Ho's. They just want love, affection and attention. Because of the rules of "Niggadom" though men are constantly on the prowl of Hitting and Running on as many Ho’s as possible and from time to time having a Girl which requires more money, time and headache before being dumped. From my own personal experience and from stories of my peers many relationships fail due to the lack of effort, majority of the time the man is wrongdoer. No more dates, no more flowers at work, no more 143 text messages are a few culprits which turn a lady off and makes her upset. So its appears gentlemen have an issue with keeping up with standards, so why not save yourself a lot of headaches and broken hearts of good women and cuff yourself a nice Ho. The standards of keeping a Ho happy are clearly lower that is why she is a Ho. A woman wants Red Lobster a Ho is happy with McDonalds. Because of the masses men feel like they can not get serious with a Ho but the only reason they are Ho's is because men use and abuse them. If you treat her like a lady she will cook, clean, laugh, cry, joke and obviously will fuck you just like a woman minus the headaches, broken car windows, and filed restraining orders. Do yourself a favor gentlemen find you a Ho and cherish her because only a Ho can make a Housewife.

Music, Life and Happiness?

2009-06-26T15:34:00.004-04:00
I would confidently bet my two thumbs that your IPod or an IPod of a friend you borrowed always had these three artists Biggie, Jay-z and Michael Jackson. Weird combo but it just seems to work. I know you thinking another "Wacko Jacko" piece paying homage now that he has left the earth but this is not your cliché blog piece friends. You should know me better than that by now!

The life, the man, the legend of Michael Joseph Jackson its in all the headlines, all the gossip blogs but has anyone really covered his life properly. I have yet to see it! I myself have been engulfed with the media coverage of the sudden death of the King of Pop but even after this loss the man cannot receive the proper respect and honor for his work. The man was living piece of history he has broken barriers and records, which I believe are untouchable. In all the mini docs I recently seen the past two days they say Mike sang as a kid sold a lot of records then the rape charges. No need to go into detail but a lot of time and effort is placed on the yet to be proven rape charges. I am not going to sit here and say I am the biggest fan ever but I respect what this man has done to black history, to pop culture and as a humanitarian. But we need to stop putting him on this pedestal and treat Michael as a human; the man was always in pain. Look at the life he lived from 1969 until his death. Even though he is clearly a naturally good damn entertainer and musician, it appears, as Michael did not live for the fame and glory he achieved. His obsession with childhood is evident through some of his music and his residence of Neverland Ranch. I think mentally Michael never passed the age 13 because of his father and the media.

Was Michael weird? It would be hard to deny that but I seriously cannot blame the man. With the scars this man held onto I think it is safe to say that Michael had passed on years before June 25, 2009. Michael cried out for true love through his music and being he never received it we see the kind of toll it took on his mind and body. Since 1969 Michael has been in the worldwide spotlight. We have seen him go from "black to white", multiple plastic surgeries, "off the wall" (no pun intended) marriages and childbirths also with sporadic weight losses but it never compromised his art. Many of my peers along with myself believed the man was really “invincible”. Seriously how many artists could sell out shows at 50 years old? I doubt Beyonce will still be “Crazy in Love” and booty bouncing at MSG 30 years from now. Physically yes he has been with us but its clear like many other legends appreciation for his work and heart was not given until their demise.

Michael has showed me a lot with his life, he has proven to me that money will not buy you happiness but he has also displayed true strength and determination. His father played a large role in his upbringing but he brought more negatives to the table compared to positives. Even though I could probably bench press him Michael without a doubt was stronger man than me, he had one of the biggest hearts in human history. Through all the trials and tribulations Michael still donated time, money and energy to helping those less unfortunate. Even in death the media slander him, why are the pictures of him the ambulance being displayed?? It is still fresh in all our minds of the death of this legend but after the burial and everything we going back to our regular baby momma, I hate my boss, my 8:15 bus is always crowded drama filled life but do not let the legend stop there. Michael will still be with you during the morning commute to work and in your heart because that is the kind of impact this man held on the world. Before Pac, Big, Eminem, Andre 3000 we all had Michael in our lives, I dare anyone to say different. .

Use his life as an example of a good soul because it still lives in each of us. I guarantee the media will continue to focus on his darker days within the next few weeks but just remember the man was not at fault and it is those same people who tainted his name. Usually when someone points the finger at somebody they are the ones who are wrong and regardless of all the ridicule he received Michael never stopped loving his fans or his art.